Unrealistic expectations can come in many ways – imposed on us by ourselves or other people. There are times it can be our understanding of others that is incorrect, but we have the power to change all that. We can discover the real truth of where our and other people’s abilities are. This can bring such peace into our lives.
So let’s start with our comprehension of what we can and cannot do. Are we realistic? Do we push ourselves beyond our abilities which leads to burnout and prevents us from enjoying others and fulfilling the purpose in our lives? Or have we been accepting a lower standard and not allowed ourselves to function properly? I must admit I have been guilty of both ends of this spectrum. While we do either, we do not have a truthful viewpoint of ourselves.
And where do we stand with other people? Do we attempt to encourage them to perform to the best of their ability? Or are we happy with a lower standard for them? Sometimes we have false expectations of others as well as ourselves. Again, I am not saying I am proficient in finding the correct balance in this area, but that it is possible to do so. If you want the best for others, gentle encouragement is the right way to go. There is no need to push others beyond that which they are capable of, but you can enjoy seeing them blossom as they begin to believe in themselves.
Sometimes we believe that other people are judging us and what we do. This may not be the case, but this reveals our own insecurities and people pleasing tendencies. But the reality of the case may be completely contrary to our understanding. We can think others judge us by a harsh standard because we are hard on ourselves but our comprehension can be totally different if we take our courage in our hands and ask what their expectations are.
Knowing what you want to accomplish in life is an excellent place to begin mapping out the treasure you can obtain. If you start with knowledge of the end point and the length of time you wish it to take, you can work out what you need to do between then and now. But you must be realistic about yourself and your abilities. If you push yourself too hard and too fast or don’t give yourself enough credit as to exactly what you can achieve, you can always adjust your expectations accordingly.
My life has changed distinctly for the better since I have been working with a life coach. She has been gently prodding me to accomplish more and believe in myself and my abilities. Without God having placed her in my life, I would not have had the courage to begin fulfilling the purpose I know He has for our family. Is it easy? No. Can it be done? Of course. You need to have people surrounding you that believe in you when you don’t and show you what you are capable of. Having a false expectation of yourself and others can cause such difficulties for you. But you can change all that.
If you need someone rooting for you, go find a friend, family member or even a coach that does, regardless of your own expectations. Your abilities, purpose and passion do matter. You can make positive changes to your life no matter what it throws at you. So please, do think about this. Work out what you need and begin to make the necessary adjustments. If this has caused you to think about where you are now and where you would like to be, I am glad. Your life is important and you can make a difference in the world if you believe in yourself.