I was watching Mass today on EWTN and the priest in his homily was talking about body shaming. It got me thinking about how the media portrays how they perceive people should look.

Body shaming is unhelpful and can lead to people becoming unhealthy and not giving their bodies enough fuel to function properly. This then causes problems at their work or in their home as they cannot perform the jobs they normally do.

When you think about it though, I believe it is important to not allow these beliefs to infiltrate your life. If you have a child and they see you either talking negatively about how people look, they may start to wonder if they look “ok” or not and attempt to become what they believe you want.

At the end of the day, how you look is not important in the grand scheme of things. You can be the most gorgeous looking person on the planet but have a terrible attitude and always attempt to shame others because of how you think. This is unhelpful and causes such stress and distress to others.

The character you have and portray and how you treat others, is much more important than how you look. Having said that, you do have a responsibility to take care of yourself and your body. You cannot sit there, stuffing your face all day and then say that it doesn’t matter if your character is good.

You only get one body in this life and you need to take care of it. Yes, you may be what people consider to be an unhealthy weight, but if you are taking care of yourself and living a good life, so that you are healthy, you are taking care of what you have.

Having said all that, I had a disability where my face basically needed reconstruction. I had to have a number of operations to fix the problems. Sometimes this can happen and it’s ok to get the problems fixed. It doesn’t change who you are inside – your character remains the same.

In life, you need to be able to accept yourself and others around you. No man is an island living totally isolated from everybody else. You impact the people around you at work and at home with your character and personality.

So what you need to do is take care of yourself and not allow yourself to be persuaded by the media that what they portray is necessarily how you should be. For years I struggled with how I looked but now that I am older, I understand that I need to accept myself and how I am. How I look is not important but I need to make the best of myself in every way and be the best me I can be.

Do you accept yourself how you are and others around you? Acceptance, understanding and speaking/writing nicely about others and yourself is the important thing in life. I would love to hear from you if any of what I have said resonates with you.