Acceptance, Attitude, best Christmas, different, experiences, gratitude, Impressions, lifestyle, mindset, Thoughts, view

The best Christmas

This year our Christmas was the best Christmas yet in spite of all of us being poorly. Each of us was sick in different ways. Now you could have looked at it and said this was the worst Christmas ever because we were all ill. But actually it was the opposite.

I was chatting with Kevin and trying to work out in my mind WHY this wasn’t a terrible day. To all outside observers, being woken by a poorly child partway through the night was not the ideal by any stretch of the imagination.

Now I can look back in my life and see times where I was poorly at Christmas time and it was not a pleasant experience. So what made this one different? Well, first of all and most of all I think, I am in a family where we all actually DO love each other and don’t say that we do but act the opposite.

The film My One Christmas Wish was on Christmas 24 and was one of the many I watched and really enjoyed. Again, this was something you could have looked at and said there was no way the woman could have found a family and lots of other people a family either. But she did. She posted an ad on Craigslist looking for a family and got so many responses she threw a party for them all and they ended up meeting and getting another person or family to share Christmas with.

You might wonder why I mention that story. Well, firstly it is a great story in and of itself, and secondly, it celebrated the love we can find within a family at Christmas time. I’m not saying we definitely will – that would be giving you false hope. But what I am saying is that not only is it possible, but the love you share with others at Christmas time can have a ripple effect – like the dropping of a stone in water.

Now I know we are a small family of 3 that celebrate Christmas together, but it is still wonderful that we can. We all love each other and it is love that makes the difference between having a good time or getting hurt and upset. If you all care for and love each other, there will be a dramatic transformation in your life.

So I guess the question now is – what are you going to do to make it happen, not just at Christmas time but life in general? It doesn’t have to just be for Christmas and possibly the new year and then you stop, it can be for always if you decide to do it.

Acceptance, action, Attitude, change, fixed mindset, growth mindset, importance, lifestyle, limiting beliefs, mindset, Thoughts, view

Growth or fixed mindset

I have been thinking about the differences between the two mindsets recently. I often find myself thinking in a fixed mindset way. For example, there are times that I believe things will never change.

This, of course, is a sign that I am thinking in a fixed mindset way and I need to expand it into a growth mindset. When I left England and moved to Scotland, I believed that things could not be worse and I would rather be lonely than continue to stay where I was.

However, God had other plans for me and I met my husband Kevin. My fixed mindset said we wouldn’t have children and here I am with 5 babies in heaven and one on earth. But it still doesn’t mean I have a growth mindset in every area of my life.

This last week has been a bit strange in some ways. I realised that I was not exactly who I believed myself to be and that my character and ability was not being expressed in the way I present my website and Facebook business page.

So things are going to be changed and updated. I will be keeping the name of the business the same but the way things look will be different. Expressing myself in my own unique way without muting my desire for colour and freedom will be taking me on a different path.

The other thing that has struck me is that I have not had a growth mindset in every area of my life and the biggest one is finances. Please don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that we assume money will magically grow on trees. You have to do something to bring the money in and work for it. God promises to bless the work of our hands, not that He is an instant money pot. I love knowing this. Such a wonderful truth to understand.

I don’t believe there is anyone who has a growth mindset in every area. We are all a work in progress and need to change things in ourselves and learn to trust our own abilities. In which areas of your life are you limiting yourself with a fixed mindset and which areas do you encourage growth in your life by having a mindset that is open to possibilities? I would love to hear from you.

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Make decisions

 

There are many times in life we have to make decisions – big ones, small ones, middle size ones. Ones that you regret and ones that you love. There are many tiny ones that you have to make in one day. What to wear, what to eat, what to drink. Sometimes there are so many decisions to make you end up with decision fatigue.

When I moved from England to Scotland, I really struggled to make decisions. I didn’t realise that making negative decisions was making a choice as well. Negative mindsets can steer you on a path to more depression, more anxiety and more distress in your life.

I’m not saying I make great decisions every day – in fact I don’t believe anyone can. But it is what you do with the choices you make. Do you take the negative experiences and change them to a positive? I don’t always manage to do so but it is possible.

If you do end up with a negative mindset or decision fatigue, it is important to allow your body and mind to rest and recover in whatever way suits you best. For me, colouring or artwork or writing has been a release and I feel rested and rejuvenated once I have completed some.

There are times where it is hard to see what the “right” decision is. But you still have to make one. At the end of the day it doesn’t matter what decision you make, you can learn from it and grow in life.

For me, one of the biggest decisions of my life was meeting Kevin online at first and then in person and then us deciding to get married. These were all decisions that we made together. It has led me on the pathway to build a website and use my creativity to produce not only artwork I love but some intuitive artwork for others.

One thing I would caution is not to make big decisions when you are tired or hungry. At this point you can’t concentrate enough to make a wise decision. So give your body what it needs first.

What do you think about making decisions? Do you enjoy doing so? Have you made decisions that transformed your life and set you on a different path?

I would love to hear from you. Your life is precious and affects the people around you. So take good care of yourself as we enter into this holiday season of Christmas. Sometimes we can get so caught up in making the day perfect for everyone we forget the self-care that we ourselves need.

So why not make good decisions this holiday season? Don’t try and do it all but give yourself grace and time to rejuvenate as well. Maybe it means the food is not perfect or everything is done on the day you would like, but that’s ok. If you enjoy making everything perfect, that’s fine too. Life will continue and things will change but that is how it works.

Acceptance, change, importance, lifestyle, mindset, self-care, Thoughts

Thoughts on mindset

I have had some thoughts on mindset this week. It has been an up and down week for me and I wanted to share with you the different things I have been considering.

From what I have seen I have noticed there are two distinct schools of thoughts on mindset. One is that you “fake it til you make it” and the other is that you work on challenging your thoughts and changing them.

To be honest with you, I didn’t know which of the two I needed to use. Should I fake it and do something I found hard to do or should I challenge my thoughts and change them?

Thing is, there are times I get bogged down with digital technology (ok, well, any technology but digital in particular). And with building a website, you run into a lot of technical things that are new and you need to learn them.

At the start of the week, I was doing well in finding and working out what I needed to do. Then panic set in and it seemed like an insurmountable job. I was working with DIGITAL TECHNOLOGY! My brain and body froze whenever I started to do anything and I couldn’t think straight.

Now I write blogposts, create digital art, use Facebook comparatively well, have conversations with my friends over Zoom or Facebook Messenger, am learning Instagram and Pinterest and Kevin has taught me how to play some digital games. Yet here I was, totally frozen in fear of building a website.

All this experience with digital technology and I thought I couldn’t conquer my fear and learn something new. Now I look back after a couple of days of rest and think, hey, I can do this!

So is it mindset change or action? Well, in a sense it was neither. Now that I am rested, I know I can do this. Sometimes we get so bogged down in something we forget to practice self-care. My mindset has changed yes, but that is the fact I have left what I was doing and taken a good break and a rest.

Is there a time it pays to take action first? Yes, when I left England and came to Scotland, I took action and drove up in one day. This was an action my mind took but my mindset didn’t change at first. It took me some time to get my head around the fact I had come up here.

So what are your thoughts on mindset? Personally I think we need to recognise that there are situations in which a mindset shift is necessary, or we are just tired and need a break, or we need to take action and let our mind catch up.