This week has been a big life lesson for me. Kevin had the flu (the real thing) and with his condition I knew there was the possibility of him getting a secondary infection and that could have produced a LOT of problems for us.
With Kevin unable to contribute to the household in any way, all the duties fell to me. I was all on my own and just as this time the Carer’s Centre told me they couldn’t come and help me at all until he had finished his medication. They had a duty of care to the workers and the other clients.
What surprised us was how he even managed to get the flu in the first place as 1. he hadn’t been out anywhere and 2. he had the flu injection last year as he always does. No matter how it looked, he was literally unable to do anything.
Not only that but there is mould in my son’s bedroom and we cannot let him sleep in there until it is sorted. So life was rather different for both of us and with Johnathan on the spectrum, he didn’t handle the changes well.
Why am I telling you all this? Well, basically, I had reached the conclusion that I couldn’t do a lot physically because of my fibromyalgia but actually I learnt this week that I am capable of SO much more than I believed.
Kevin is almost back to his normal health thank goodness and I am ok. This was a big life lesson to me and I realised that although I did things round the house and for our family, the balance of work has basically fallen onto Kevin.
I was chatting to my mentor, Linda Clay, telling her what an awful person I was and how terrible I must be. She told me that I mustn’t do that to myself and that it is a big life lesson to me. I can’t change the past or predict the future. All we have is now and what we do with what is given us.
Right now, all I have is the ability to be mindful and not let the lion’s share of the work fall on my husband. We are both disabled and used to do everything together and we have now started doing that agin. It makes such a difference when you share the load equally.
I love my wee family and will do what they need. What big life lesson have you had that made you change everything you did?
It is interesting when you look at autumn and the types of harvest you can have at this season of the year. On one hand you have the apparent lack of leaves on the trees as they fall to the ground and the branches of the trees begin to look bare and empty. But you also have the ripening of fruit and nuts as they begin to be stored up by the animals in preparation for the long winter ahead.
There are many types of harvest but it is also a season where you can focus on the lack of what you think you don’t have or on the abundance that is actually there. It can be so easy to focus on the negative in our lives and how much we are missing.
Autumn is also a time where the day begins to close in and the days get shorter. It is a time of preparing for the winter not only for the animals but also for us. You can prepare for things to change – for example, a child leaving home and going out into the big wide world to discover new horizons. You could focus on the loss, or the empty nest or set your mind on what you have instead.
I think it is not a mistake that schools start back in the autumn. It is an easier time when they have been off over the summer and storing up vitamin levels in their bodies. This means they have a great chance to harvest the vitamins from the abundance they have gained.
Types of harvest could even refer to money. If you have invested wisely through your life, you may get to enjoy the fruits of your labour and have enough to see you through the winter of your life.
The things that cannot be bought can be focused on during this time of autumn/fall/harvest. Take something like love, for example. When a baby is born (well even before it is born) you talk to the baby and express things to the baby and tell him or her how much you love them. However, you do not gain that back in speech until the child moves on a few stages and says they love you in return. You do get an abundance of love in return and them expressing it to you is the harvest you reap.
You reap what you sow. So what are you going to sow in your life today? Love, affection, happiness, care and all the other things that cannot be bought would be the best things to cultivate both now and in the future.