I saw an incident yesterday that left me totally moved. Now that’s not to say I don’t find other things difficult but this for was deeply unsettling.
Johnathan and I had been to the doctor and we came outside to see an elderly gentleman being told to get out of the car. He was protesting that he needed help. The younger couple in the car with him ended up having to help him up. They then sat him on his walker for a little rest. Then she told him to get up and walk in as he was late for an appointment.
The elderly gentleman was obviously distraught as he continued saying he couldn’t do it and she was insisting that he could! I called over and the younger man came towards the car window I had pulled down. I said to him that he could get a manual chair from inside the doctor’s surgery.
He assured me that he could walk because it was all in his head. They all knew he was just lazy. He had been lying in a hospital bed for 9 weeks and now he refused to walk because he was lazy and didn’t want to help himself. The doctors had said there was nothing wrong but he was choosing to be like this.
I think the difficulty comes when people don’t understand what “all in your head” actually means.
You see, it didn’t matter if it was in his head or not. The fact is that he believed it so his body was doing it.
As we were leaving Johnathan asked me why an old man would choose to be lazy and I explained to him that it wasn’t what he chose to do but his brain was telling him he couldn’t do it.
It actually made me stop and think how fortunate I was when this happened to me 9 years ago.
I had an understanding husband who supported me. And a physio who also did and basically taught me how to walk again in the 8 weeks I was in the hospital.
Without that help and support, I would not have coped with life and I’m sad to see that things like this still go on. What do you think?