This is an event that happens to all children and although some might be anxious, with those on the spectrum you never know just how they are going to react.
I went with Johnathan to see the new school we wanted him to attend and he was delighted at it and was happy and excited and wanted to go there. He wanted to be reassured that he would be happy and comfortable there. On my part, I wanted to see round the whole place because with Kevin and I both needing wheelchairs, I needed to know if we would fit or not. If we hadn’t, I would have been disappointed, but we did. Everything seemed delightful and I was pleasantly surprised that he was very enthusiastic about the whole idea of going.
Fast forward to a few days ago – oh my goodness!
What a difference! He is now so anxious about the whole thing. Poor boy ended up with what he thought was tummy pain and it turned out to be anxiety.
I knew he was an anxious child, but I didn’t realize it would get him to the place where it would begin impacting his little, young life. We are looking at new and different ways to help him cope with the idea of moving from a mix of school and nursery to an actual school where he will start in Primary 1 – basically the first year or whatever you call it (for all of you, unfortunate people, not living in Scotland).
So many children struggle to cope with the thought of the new school and what might happen there, and that’s ok.
It’s normal to worry about a new situation, a change in your life, or new circumstances. But it’s how you deal with it that’s important. And I recognize the fact Johnathan feels 10 times what other children feel so this stomach pain is real and a problem for him. Right now, I don’t know what the answer will be, but I know that we need to find one for him that will reassure him everything will be ok.
And yes, it is scary to a child who hates being OUT of routine to even begin the attempt to get his/her head around the concept that everything will be different. He’s already upset that Mummy doesn’t cut toast right so…we’ll see what transpires.
At the end of the day, he needs to adjust to this.
However, it is a massive change for him and we just need to work out the best way to handle it for him. I know we will do it, but sometimes it takes time to find the answer. And that’s ok.
So, with love and blessings, let me say farewell and I will see you next week.