Attitude, focus, gratitude, importance, life, lifestyle, mindset, positive, Thoughts, view

Focus on the positive in life

Thoughts can be life changing and we need to focus on the positive in life. It is possible to reframe what we believe and live a life that looks for the positive in things. There are circumstances that happen and initially can seem devastating but there is always something good to be found in it.

Having suffered with depression on and off through my life, it is comforting to know that I can change what I think in a more positive way. I don’t want to be negative and live a suspicious life where I believe every person I meet is against me.

One of the things you will have noticed that I do is write a grateful post every day of the week. If I miss a day or two I do catch up with it. An attitude of gratitude is a great thing to cultivate in your life. It helps you to find the positive things that happen every day.

Do you know that when something changes in life, your attention is drawn to it? You begin to see it a lot more around you, in the people you meet and the place you live in? This can happen whether what you see is positive or negative.

Personally, I want to live a full and satisfying life and be able to focus on the positive. Yes, things in life happen and circumstances change but that doesn’t mean you can’t see a positive in it. Sometimes we have to look harder to find a good thing and that’s ok.

Today my son taught me a lesson. He was playing in the kitchen and came running to tell me the sky was pink. He was so excited to see it! Made me remember the joy we can have in little things. They don’t have to be big to be positive or encourage a grateful attitude, even a small thing. It doesn’t need to be a life changing event. Johnathan found something to be grateful for and it reminded me of the beauty of sunsets no matter what season of the year we are in.

You can make a choice today to try and focus on the positive and the good things in life. I’m not saying you’ll get it right away – you won’t. And I’m not telling you that you will be able to find the positive in the circumstances you find yourself in. The choice is yours and if you make that choice, sometimes you will slip back to the old way of thinking and that’s ok. As long as you remember nothing is perfect, and that you can try again, that’s ok.

Who wants to continue on this journey with me? I have been trying to live this way for some time and would love for you to join me in the quest for a good, fulfilled, positive life. Do come join my facebook group Anika’s HeART and Crafts where we can discuss what living a positive, fulfilled and complete life means. I look forward to seeing you there.

every day, gratitude, lifestyle, today

Today is a gift

Today is a gift, how do you feel about it? Every day is a full 24 hours. There is no difference in any day, in the sense that you don’t get 23 hours or 25 hours. Each one is the same length of time as the last and tomorrow will be the same as well.

But here it is, today. What do you think of it? Well, to be perfectly honest, in some ways it doesn’t really matter how you think about it. The gift of a day is a precious thing because not everybody gets one.

I love the fact that there is always something good that happens in every day that can be viewed as a gift. There are good days, bad days, fun days, joyful days, sad days, enjoyable days and everything in between. Sometimes a mix of emotions happen in a day as well.

Bot how do you view the day? I try to find something in every day that I can be grateful for. There are some days I really struggle to find something to write in a post on my facebook personal page and something different on my business page. Life doesn’t always go smoothly, but that is how it is. You cannot change the bumps in the road, but you can change how you view them.

No matter what happens, each day IS a gift. I think Kevin and I were strongly reminded of this fact when we lost our stillborn daughter, Natalie. Not only were we able to look back and measure the days she was in my womb and the things we learnt about her during this time, but it was a bitter sweet experience.

Looking back, we can see the precious gifts that came with the days that were hard with each of our losses. Each day is a wonderful gift, but it isn’t necessarily wrapped up smartly with a beautiful bow on top.

Unexpected things occur and you cannot plan for them. Life doesn’t always unfold the way we anticipate. However, we can be flexible in our planning and change things as circumstances dictate.

Every day of your life contains a precious gift. Today is the start of a new year. It doesn’t matter how you have viewed life in the past, you can begin to choose how you will both today and in the future.

Can you commit to begin looking for that gift in every day? It may not be easy, you may not see it on the actual day and that’s ok. Unwrapping a gift isn’t always easy – sometimes the sellotape is harder to tear than you thought it might be, other times the packaging presents challenges that you never believed was even possible.

Going forward I am still committed to trying to find that gift in every day, not just today. The gift in today for me is that we had a wonderful day together as an extended family.

Acceptance, Attitude, best Christmas, different, experiences, gratitude, Impressions, lifestyle, mindset, Thoughts, view

The best Christmas

This year our Christmas was the best Christmas yet in spite of all of us being poorly. Each of us was sick in different ways. Now you could have looked at it and said this was the worst Christmas ever because we were all ill. But actually it was the opposite.

I was chatting with Kevin and trying to work out in my mind WHY this wasn’t a terrible day. To all outside observers, being woken by a poorly child partway through the night was not the ideal by any stretch of the imagination.

Now I can look back in my life and see times where I was poorly at Christmas time and it was not a pleasant experience. So what made this one different? Well, first of all and most of all I think, I am in a family where we all actually DO love each other and don’t say that we do but act the opposite.

The film My One Christmas Wish was on Christmas 24 and was one of the many I watched and really enjoyed. Again, this was something you could have looked at and said there was no way the woman could have found a family and lots of other people a family either. But she did. She posted an ad on Craigslist looking for a family and got so many responses she threw a party for them all and they ended up meeting and getting another person or family to share Christmas with.

You might wonder why I mention that story. Well, firstly it is a great story in and of itself, and secondly, it celebrated the love we can find within a family at Christmas time. I’m not saying we definitely will – that would be giving you false hope. But what I am saying is that not only is it possible, but the love you share with others at Christmas time can have a ripple effect – like the dropping of a stone in water.

Now I know we are a small family of 3 that celebrate Christmas together, but it is still wonderful that we can. We all love each other and it is love that makes the difference between having a good time or getting hurt and upset. If you all care for and love each other, there will be a dramatic transformation in your life.

So I guess the question now is – what are you going to do to make it happen, not just at Christmas time but life in general? It doesn’t have to just be for Christmas and possibly the new year and then you stop, it can be for always if you decide to do it.

gratitude, limiting beliefs, self-sabotage, view

How you view yourself in life

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How you view yourself is vitally important to the way you live your life. Sometimes it is important to stop and examine the thoughts you have about yourself and see if they are helping or hindering you.

This is not something I had really considered doing. When I moved to Scotland, I had a large number of limiting beliefs that held me back from developing, growing and changing in my life. The foremost and only thought of my mind I can remember at that time was that no matter what I did, nothing would work.

As I have started moving towards the future vision of what we want to do with our lives, I am beginning to discover certain thought patterns that have dictated I stay back in the box I put myself into in the first place.

Some people want to stay exactly as they are and not have to change, develop and grow. But life is not static. You are constantly finding things that change your perceived path in life. Babies grow up, your years on the earth change you and sometimes your road in life is a rocky one and seemingly unstable.

Yesterday one of my friends told me that I was believing and propagating a belief that would hold me back if I didn’t stop it. When I thought about it, I realised that she was correct and I needed to change the way I was thinking.

I have written about self-sabotaging behaviour in the past and sometimes the beliefs we hold cause us to self-sabotage. This is not the way I want to live and maybe you don’t either. So many times people tell me I can do or be something and I hold back. Not because they are necessarily wrong but I don’t believe what they are saying. And yet here I am having actually taken courses to begin to be able to volunteer to help others – something I NEVER thought I could do.

If you find that you are stuck in a particular place or way, then it is time you look at yourself closely and examine whether what you are doing confirms something negative or positive in your life. If your thoughts are hindering you moving into what you truly are, why not start to change them?

I want things to be positive in my life and to stop believing bad things about myself, and I am sure you do too. Limiting beliefs can hold you back in so many ways. How you see yourself brings out a certain pattern of behaviour that you may not even realise you are doing.

Just because you have lived a certain way all your life doesn’t mean you have to stay there. You can make a change, even if it is just a small one every day. Baby steps all the way. Being grateful for what we have is a good place to start. To that end, I have tried to post a grateful comment every day on my personal page.

As life changes and brings us challenges we never anticipated, we can meet them with either a positive or negative attitude. I’m not saying that everything can be met with a positive attitude in life straight away – that is unrealistic, but you can attempt to see the good in things, even if they are bad. We have five children in heaven and yes, they are some of the hardest episodes of our lives but we are trying to make good come from bad and write a book to other parents going through babyloss themselves.

So let’s return to where we started. It’s how you view yourself in life and how that impacts you and the others around you. I’m not saying I get all this right because nobody can. What I want you to think about is how you view yourself and your life. Does it keep you stuck where you are or do you need to change the sound and voice of the limiting beliefs you hold?