Where do you start?

So where do you start when you don’t know what to do? I have ended up talking to a number of people today because I didn’t know what to write. But you know what? There are many different things you can write about and starting anything is difficult.

I am doing an intuitive piece of artwork at the moment. One of the things I discovered this week is that I didn’t trust what I was thinking and feeling and was asking the client questions and when she answered it was exactly what I had thought originally myself.

One of the things I have realised through my work this last week is how little I have been trusting myself and what I know. As I was pondering that, I realised that so many others distrust themselves as well. Our spirit, soul, mind, gut, intuition – whatever you want to call it, I really don’t mind, but the place you hold the answers to the questions that come up.

Many of us have learnt to distrust our inner knowledge, but actually that is not a good thing. Our inner guide will always lead us right and we need to discover and learn this. It is not necessarily something we come to naturally but that’s ok. There is time, and we can all learn, no matter what age we are.

On the voyage of a journey we call life, there are many things we discover and learn. Trusting ourselves and being confident in our decisions is not easy. I know my son finds it hard to believe that what he thinks is good and right. Some days he will come and ask questions you KNOW he knows the answer to, but he tries to be reassured by an adult telling him what he thinks. What I have learned to do is ask him what he thinks and try to encourage him to believe in himself and what he thinks.

So why do some people trust themselves and what they think? HOW do they have the courage of their convictions while others falter and flounder and look around to others to provide the answers for them? Is it their personality or something that others instil inside them?

Personality has a lot to do with it, I think. Natural confidence and belief in themselves helps them to navigate the world in a seemingly easier way than most people. Although they appear to fly through life untroubled by the storms that confront other people, you really don’t know what they go through. The image they portray is not reflective of the reality inside or even outside.

What I think we all need to remember is that all the answers you need to have are within you. You can start exactly where you are. There is an untapped well of knowledge inside you that can help you in life, no matter what the occasion. Believing and trusting in yourself may not come easy but until you begin to do so, you will end up thinking you are without answers whereas they are only a thought or two away.

Having said all this, I want to say that I am not talking about anything where you need a professional to help you, but it is true for everything else.

So, the question becomes, where are you going to start now that you know you can do it?

Where do I start?

The answer lies within you
It is written in your soul
You know where the answer is
So why not stop and listen?

Anger could build up inside
When the answer seems not there
But if you could just quiet down
You’ll know what you need to do.

It’s just the quiet voice inside
The one you’re not listening to
Or it could be the feeling
The one you have discarded

But take heed of this advice
For it will guide you true
Starting is the place to be
Doing what you know to do.

Who will you serve today?

Who will you serve today? What an interesting concept to be able to have a look at. I was inspired by seeing this comment by and thought it would be a wonderful expression to explore and discover.

There are many areas that you can look at this question because it could apply to any part of your life – both home and work. But today I want to look at the business side and how it relates to us all.

Service can be seen as an old-fashioned concept but actually I believe it should be central in our whole life. It can either be done intentionally or accidentally. Life with an attitude of service is wonderfully rewarding and satisfying.

Before you can serve others, the first person you have to take care of is yourself. Think of the example you have in the aeroplane where you have to put the mask on yourself before you help someone else. It is not selfish to be able to know with certainty that you can serve somebody because you are well yourself.

Another aspect of service that I believe can be overlooked is gratitude. This can open unexpected doors for you, but is also noticed by your clients. Unless you come from a joy filled place and are happy and content in yourself and what you are doing, your clients/customers and even co-workers will know it, whether you use the right words or not.

Even if you are a solopreneur, you can still serve other people. You may not encounter them directly, but they can feel if you come from the attitude of joyful service or not.

Some businesses are in what is known as the service industry. When you look at their jobs, and the work they accomplish, it appears easy for them to serve. But that doesn’t mean they should not enjoy their work or fail to find satisfaction in what they do.

When you are in a different sector of the working world, it can be more complex to see how you could serve someone but if you maintain an attitude of gratefulness, love and service for others, you will find unexpected ways to serve people.

So, as you go out there and start a new week at work, ask yourself “Who can I serve today?” and you could be surprised at the answer.

Do you want to serve others?

Do you want to serve others
And give them a better day?
Or just sit there watching
Because your life is great?

It doesn’t matter who you are
Or what it is you want to do
In order to serve others
We must give them something too.

This can be within your job
Others can be served by you
Giving them a better day
Because you know you can.

Who will you serve this day?
Someone who needs a smile
Kind words and helping hands
Serving them this day.

You know it doesn’t have to be
Something big or grand
Maybe just a listening ear
With gratitude and love.

Look at those you serve today
And see what you can do
You never know the change you make
As you brighten someone’s day.

Big Life Lesson

This week has been a big life lesson for me. Kevin had the flu (the real thing) and with his condition I knew there was the possibility of him getting a secondary infection and that could have produced a LOT of problems for us.

With Kevin unable to contribute to the household in any way, all the duties fell to me. I was all on my own and just as this time the Carer’s Centre told me they couldn’t come and help me at all until he had finished his medication. They had a duty of care to the workers and the other clients.

What surprised us was how he even managed to get the flu in the first place as 1. he hadn’t been out anywhere and 2. he had the flu injection last year as he always does. No matter how it looked, he was literally unable to do anything.

Not only that but there is mould in my son’s bedroom and we cannot let him sleep in there until it is sorted. So life was rather different for both of us and with Johnathan on the spectrum, he didn’t handle the changes well.

Why am I telling you all this? Well, basically, I had reached the conclusion that I couldn’t do a lot physically because of my fibromyalgia but actually I learnt this week that I am capable of SO much more than I believed.

Kevin is almost back to his normal health thank goodness and I am ok. This was a big life lesson to me and I realised that although I did things round the house and for our family, the balance of work has basically fallen onto Kevin.

I was chatting to my mentor, Linda Clay, telling her what an awful person I was and how terrible I must be. She told me that I mustn’t do that to myself and that it is a big life lesson to me. I can’t change the past or predict the future. All we have is now and what we do with what is given us.

Right now, all I have is the ability to be mindful and not let the lion’s share of the work fall on my husband. We are both disabled and used to do everything together and we have now started doing that agin. It makes such a difference when you share the load equally.

I love my wee family and will do what they need. What big life lesson have you had that made you change everything you did?

Types of Harvest

It is interesting when you look at autumn and the types of harvest you can have at this season of the year. On one hand you have the apparent lack of leaves on the trees as they fall to the ground and the branches of the trees begin to look bare and empty. But you also have the ripening of fruit and nuts as they begin to be stored up by the animals in preparation for the long winter ahead.

There are many types of harvest but it is also a season where you can focus on the lack of what you think you don’t have or on the abundance that is actually there. It can be so easy to focus on the negative in our lives and how much we are missing.

Autumn is also a time where the day begins to close in and the days get shorter. It is a time of preparing for the winter not only for the animals but also for us. You can prepare for things to change – for example, a child leaving home and going out into the big wide world to discover new horizons. You could focus on the loss, or the empty nest or set your mind on what you have instead.

I think it is not a mistake that schools start back in the autumn. It is an easier time when they have been off over the summer and storing up vitamin levels in their bodies. This means they have a great chance to harvest the vitamins from the abundance they have gained.

Types of harvest could even refer to money. If you have invested wisely through your life, you may get to enjoy the fruits of your labour and have enough to see you through the winter of your life.

The things that cannot be bought can be focused on during this time of autumn/fall/harvest. Take something like love, for example. When a baby is born (well even before it is born) you talk to the baby and express things to the baby and tell him or her how much you love them. However, you do not gain that back in speech until the child moves on a few stages and says they love you in return. You do get an abundance of love in return and them expressing it to you is the harvest you reap.

You reap what you sow. So what are you going to sow in your life today? Love, affection, happiness, care and all the other things that cannot be bought would be the best things to cultivate both now and in the future.