Do you control it OR does it control you?

Does it control you OR do you control it?

Does it control you or do you control it. Interesting statement. I cannot take credit for the blogpost – it came from a friend of mine who has known me for over 20 years.

Instantly in my mind came a graphic picture of two elements warring against each other, both determined to win but the victory undecided. In fact, it’s the one above this post here. So we chatted about it and I was saying I was going to create it and here it is!

You see, it doesn’t refer to a particular situation or circumstance, it can apply to anything. However, if you took this and used this to make people do just as you wanted, then that would be an inappropriate usage of the power that is within that statement. Control of one human being over another is wrong, no matter WHAT the circumstances.

Pondering is quite illuminating sometimes and I started to ponder on this. How would I be if I chose this in every situation in my life? How would this then impact my family? You see, we are all linked together and could never live on an island alone, without help, without food or without clothing and without drink?

But I am talking of my immediate family. I am going to be shaking the way we live and yes, it involves a number of changes. I know it won’t be easy, but we can get through it together as a family and yes, that’s important because Johnathan is moving up in life and some things need to change now that he is coming up to school age.

But then I thought what do I need to do for myself? I have been talking about self-care but relating that to just being a mindless person watching endless tv…so far removed from what it ACTUALLY is.

Has it got to the stage of controlling me? Not quite yet and it won’t! Sometimes you just need a little push to realise who you are and what you are intended to do on this earth. Your purpose for living hasn’t expired yet – if it had, you wouldn’t be here yourself!

I’ve had some knocks in the last couple of months, but that’s ok. It doesn’t matter if you need to take time to recover from things or the shock of them. Get yourselves out there again like me and go get those goals!

I heard or read a story (I can’t remember where) that a stonemason was sitting by the side of the road hitting a rock. A child was observing each thwack of the tools as the stonemason continued his work. Finally, he said to the stonemason “which thwack of the hammer breaks the stone you are working on?” The stonemason replied that it wasn’t the first one or the last one, or all the ones in between. It was all of them TOGETHER that created the crack which split the stone.” So don’t forget the little steps that got you to where you are.

So my question to you is…..Does it control you or do you control it?

Control

Control, control who has control?
Is it me or is it you?
Life continues as it is
Or changes as it goes.

All the different things in life
Control can be unusual
You didn’t think it mattered
But you did not have control.

There are so many things in life
Where you think you have control
But do you know what happens
When it controls your mind.

Today I want what’s best for you
And give your life some freedom
What you believe will change your life
If only you will live it.

Who will you serve today?

Who will you serve today? What an interesting concept to be able to have a look at. I was inspired by seeing this comment by and thought it would be a wonderful expression to explore and discover.

There are many areas that you can look at this question because it could apply to any part of your life – both home and work. But today I want to look at the business side and how it relates to us all.

Service can be seen as an old-fashioned concept but actually I believe it should be central in our whole life. It can either be done intentionally or accidentally. Life with an attitude of service is wonderfully rewarding and satisfying.

Before you can serve others, the first person you have to take care of is yourself. Think of the example you have in the aeroplane where you have to put the mask on yourself before you help someone else. It is not selfish to be able to know with certainty that you can serve somebody because you are well yourself.

Another aspect of service that I believe can be overlooked is gratitude. This can open unexpected doors for you, but is also noticed by your clients. Unless you come from a joy filled place and are happy and content in yourself and what you are doing, your clients/customers and even co-workers will know it, whether you use the right words or not.

Even if you are a solopreneur, you can still serve other people. You may not encounter them directly, but they can feel if you come from the attitude of joyful service or not.

Some businesses are in what is known as the service industry. When you look at their jobs, and the work they accomplish, it appears easy for them to serve. But that doesn’t mean they should not enjoy their work or fail to find satisfaction in what they do.

When you are in a different sector of the working world, it can be more complex to see how you could serve someone but if you maintain an attitude of gratefulness, love and service for others, you will find unexpected ways to serve people.

So, as you go out there and start a new week at work, ask yourself “Who can I serve today?” and you could be surprised at the answer.

Do you want to serve others?

Do you want to serve others
And give them a better day?
Or just sit there watching
Because your life is great?

It doesn’t matter who you are
Or what it is you want to do
In order to serve others
We must give them something too.

This can be within your job
Others can be served by you
Giving them a better day
Because you know you can.

Who will you serve this day?
Someone who needs a smile
Kind words and helping hands
Serving them this day.

You know it doesn’t have to be
Something big or grand
Maybe just a listening ear
With gratitude and love.

Look at those you serve today
And see what you can do
You never know the change you make
As you brighten someone’s day.

I have a Dream – Martin Luther King Jr.


I have a dream. Not the one that Martin Luther King Jnr had, but one of my own. There are so many dreams that you have as a child – some that are almost impossible (like becoming a princess) and others that are more realistic, like becoming a nurse or doctor.

However, childhood dreams do not always come to pass. And sometimes those dreams grow and morph into something else entirely. Does that mean it is wrong to dream as a child? Should you stop your children dreaming? Of course not! Dreams help the creativity side of a child develop and you never know where they could end up in life.

One of my dreams as a child was to be a ballet dancer. We took classes when I was small – can’t remember how old I was, but it was discovered very quickly that I did not possess the co-ordination or the height needed to become one. So that idea I had of myself was never going to come to pass.

I also wanted to have a horse of my own and ride it but that was equally unrealistic. I believe it was in my pre-teen years that I learnt to ride. This I was good at and enjoyed it but again it was not sustainable as a career for me.

You probably had your own ideas of what you wanted to be when you grew up. And probably, like me, a number of different things that were unrealistic in your circumstances or way of life. But that’s ok. We need to have these dreams or visions to help us form our imagination or creative side of our brains.

As you get older, you learn what is possible and probable in your life. You don’t have to stay stagnant in what you do, but can grow and develop yourself as you go through different situations and circumstances.

However, one thing is necessary and many think of it as uncomfortable to mention – you have to mourn or grieve the impossible life you imagined in your youth or young adulthood. People don’t like to talk about it, but it’s a necessary part of learning to accept yourself and your situation as you are.

Now this doesn’t mean that you have to settle for what you have in the present. You can still have a dream or a vision for your future. For many years, I thought my vision was just going to fall in my lap at the right time. But it’s not going to be like that. You have to work at getting it set up so that you will be ready when the time comes for its fruition.

When you have a dream or vision for your future, it needs to be realistic but push you out of your comfort zone. For example, if you say you want to make a million dollars by the end of the year by winning the lottery, it COULD happen but it’s highly unlikely to happen. If you said you wanted to make an extra hundred dollars by doing some extra or different work to your normal job, that is much more realistic and you are capable of achieving it if you plan and work at getting it done.

There is more to life than where you are at time moment. Are you going to prepare yourself for what you dream about? Or will you sit where you are and say it should come to pass on its own without me working for it? You have the choice to make it happen or not.

Dreams

The dreams you have as a child
Are not always meant to come to pass
Some of them will come true
But your life will be transformed.

You think you will do many things
Imagining things that bring forth dreams
And not considering what you have
Or your life now as an adult.

So many things I wanted to be
But my life path has been different
I went down a stranger road
Than the one I had imagined.

However, some dreams do come true
And you find your life made whole
They may be unexpected
But you can make a happy life.

Take your ideas and see what happens
Which ones you can bring forth
They will mark your way in life
And complete you totally.

Types of Harvest

It is interesting when you look at autumn and the types of harvest you can have at this season of the year. On one hand you have the apparent lack of leaves on the trees as they fall to the ground and the branches of the trees begin to look bare and empty. But you also have the ripening of fruit and nuts as they begin to be stored up by the animals in preparation for the long winter ahead.

There are many types of harvest but it is also a season where you can focus on the lack of what you think you don’t have or on the abundance that is actually there. It can be so easy to focus on the negative in our lives and how much we are missing.

Autumn is also a time where the day begins to close in and the days get shorter. It is a time of preparing for the winter not only for the animals but also for us. You can prepare for things to change – for example, a child leaving home and going out into the big wide world to discover new horizons. You could focus on the loss, or the empty nest or set your mind on what you have instead.

I think it is not a mistake that schools start back in the autumn. It is an easier time when they have been off over the summer and storing up vitamin levels in their bodies. This means they have a great chance to harvest the vitamins from the abundance they have gained.

Types of harvest could even refer to money. If you have invested wisely through your life, you may get to enjoy the fruits of your labour and have enough to see you through the winter of your life.

The things that cannot be bought can be focused on during this time of autumn/fall/harvest. Take something like love, for example. When a baby is born (well even before it is born) you talk to the baby and express things to the baby and tell him or her how much you love them. However, you do not gain that back in speech until the child moves on a few stages and says they love you in return. You do get an abundance of love in return and them expressing it to you is the harvest you reap.

You reap what you sow. So what are you going to sow in your life today? Love, affection, happiness, care and all the other things that cannot be bought would be the best things to cultivate both now and in the future.