Where do you start?

So where do you start when you don’t know what to do? I have ended up talking to a number of people today because I didn’t know what to write. But you know what? There are many different things you can write about and starting anything is difficult.

I am doing an intuitive piece of artwork at the moment. One of the things I discovered this week is that I didn’t trust what I was thinking and feeling and was asking the client questions and when she answered it was exactly what I had thought originally myself.

One of the things I have realised through my work this last week is how little I have been trusting myself and what I know. As I was pondering that, I realised that so many others distrust themselves as well. Our spirit, soul, mind, gut, intuition – whatever you want to call it, I really don’t mind, but the place you hold the answers to the questions that come up.

Many of us have learnt to distrust our inner knowledge, but actually that is not a good thing. Our inner guide will always lead us right and we need to discover and learn this. It is not necessarily something we come to naturally but that’s ok. There is time, and we can all learn, no matter what age we are.

On the voyage of a journey we call life, there are many things we discover and learn. Trusting ourselves and being confident in our decisions is not easy. I know my son finds it hard to believe that what he thinks is good and right. Some days he will come and ask questions you KNOW he knows the answer to, but he tries to be reassured by an adult telling him what he thinks. What I have learned to do is ask him what he thinks and try to encourage him to believe in himself and what he thinks.

So why do some people trust themselves and what they think? HOW do they have the courage of their convictions while others falter and flounder and look around to others to provide the answers for them? Is it their personality or something that others instil inside them?

Personality has a lot to do with it, I think. Natural confidence and belief in themselves helps them to navigate the world in a seemingly easier way than most people. Although they appear to fly through life untroubled by the storms that confront other people, you really don’t know what they go through. The image they portray is not reflective of the reality inside or even outside.

What I think we all need to remember is that all the answers you need to have are within you. You can start exactly where you are. There is an untapped well of knowledge inside you that can help you in life, no matter what the occasion. Believing and trusting in yourself may not come easy but until you begin to do so, you will end up thinking you are without answers whereas they are only a thought or two away.

Having said all this, I want to say that I am not talking about anything where you need a professional to help you, but it is true for everything else.

So, the question becomes, where are you going to start now that you know you can do it?

Where do I start?

The answer lies within you
It is written in your soul
You know where the answer is
So why not stop and listen?

Anger could build up inside
When the answer seems not there
But if you could just quiet down
You’ll know what you need to do.

It’s just the quiet voice inside
The one you’re not listening to
Or it could be the feeling
The one you have discarded

But take heed of this advice
For it will guide you true
Starting is the place to be
Doing what you know to do.

The Summer of Life

The summer of life. What a beautiful statement to be able to make. Just think about it a bit. Summer is beautiful and warm and refreshing. You can sit outside and just soak up the sun’s rays.

So exactly what do we get in this season of life? The vision of summer conjures up images of people on rivers or canals in some kind of boat. Or maybe you’re not that kind of person. Perhaps you like the beach? Or do you go exploring?

Kevin and I love nothing more than to pick a place on the map and tell the navigation to ignore all motorways. We have discovered beautiful countryside this way. And met some lovely people doing different crafting things.

Summer holidays are also part of the equation of it all. Children have a break during this period and they mostly love it! This is a beautiful time where they are able to grow and explore and learn and develop without the constraints of the classroom.

But what about the summer of life? The one within your heart and soul? It is a time where you get to rejoice at the beauty surrounding you as the plants and trees bear fruit. This is not the time for gathering it all up – it needs to grow to full fruition.

My summer of life is wild and exciting. I am looking forward to the full beauty at the end of the summer and the beginning of autumn where we begin to gather the fruit in and store it up for the season that is coming.

You might wonder how I know this is the season of life that I am in. Well, I will tell you. My winter season has been and gone, the leanness of nothing within is past. Spring entered my soul and I can point to the places where small seeds began to sprout. Now I am starting to know and understand things I never did before. I am beginning to see ideas spring from my mind and learn the beauty of colour and words and shape and form.

Are you also in the summer of your life? What can you see emerging from the seeds that were planted during the springtime? Your life is important and precious and I would love to hear from you.

Focus on the positive in life

Thoughts can be life changing and we need to focus on the positive in life. It is possible to reframe what we believe and live a life that looks for the positive in things. There are circumstances that happen and initially can seem devastating but there is always something good to be found in it.

Having suffered with depression on and off through my life, it is comforting to know that I can change what I think in a more positive way. I don’t want to be negative and live a suspicious life where I believe every person I meet is against me.

One of the things you will have noticed that I do is write a grateful post every day of the week. If I miss a day or two I do catch up with it. An attitude of gratitude is a great thing to cultivate in your life. It helps you to find the positive things that happen every day.

Do you know that when something changes in life, your attention is drawn to it? You begin to see it a lot more around you, in the people you meet and the place you live in? This can happen whether what you see is positive or negative.

Personally, I want to live a full and satisfying life and be able to focus on the positive. Yes, things in life happen and circumstances change but that doesn’t mean you can’t see a positive in it. Sometimes we have to look harder to find a good thing and that’s ok.

Today my son taught me a lesson. He was playing in the kitchen and came running to tell me the sky was pink. He was so excited to see it! Made me remember the joy we can have in little things. They don’t have to be big to be positive or encourage a grateful attitude, even a small thing. It doesn’t need to be a life changing event. Johnathan found something to be grateful for and it reminded me of the beauty of sunsets no matter what season of the year we are in.

You can make a choice today to try and focus on the positive and the good things in life. I’m not saying you’ll get it right away – you won’t. And I’m not telling you that you will be able to find the positive in the circumstances you find yourself in. The choice is yours and if you make that choice, sometimes you will slip back to the old way of thinking and that’s ok. As long as you remember nothing is perfect, and that you can try again, that’s ok.

Who wants to continue on this journey with me? I have been trying to live this way for some time and would love for you to join me in the quest for a good, fulfilled, positive life. Do come join my facebook group Anika’s HeART and Crafts where we can discuss what living a positive, fulfilled and complete life means. I look forward to seeing you there.

Mindsets

I have been thinking about mindsets and how we believe things because someone we see as having authority or knowledge has told us something. It is not that we have thought about it ourselves and come up with the idea, we just follow it (sometimes blindly) and never think about it.

Believing something because you KNOW it to be true is different from having a core belief that you don’t question because you think it has always been there or someone told you it was that way and you never had reason to doubt they were right.

Let me give you an example from my life. I had lots of different illnesses and physical issues – one of which was only being able to open my mouth one inch in total. This was impacting the rest of my body and causing many different things to happen. I went to see lots of different doctors and dentists and probably other ones as well but I can’t remember who they were and none of them had the answer.

Because I wasn’t getting an answer, the suggestion was that I had Munchausens and that I needed psychiatric help because my physical problems were all in my mind. I let this become a belief of mine because I was told it by people “in authority” but it wasn’t actually true.

Eventually we discovered that I needed my whole face reconstructed and that would take a lot of surgeries to correct being spaced out over a year. So that blew the whole concept of me having Munchausens out of the water.

You know what? It doesn’t have to be something as big as that mindset needing changing. It could be something really small and almost invisible. But if that changed you would have a life that was fulfilling and rewarding. Not everybody has such a massive mindset change that large, and that’s ok. I needed to know there WAS a physical reason for what I was going through and it wasn’t mental.

Changing your mindset is not something that is done easily or lightly. Sometimes they are beliefs that you have had from when you were a child that you don’t even remember being taught them, or they are ones that have come to you later in life and you just accept them because they seem authoritative.

The first important step you need to take is to look at those beliefs and work out if they are true or not. If they are NOT true, you need to reframe your thoughts and remember to tell yourself the new thought that you want embedded in your brain whenever you see the old thought returning. The good thing is that you CAN rewire your brain to a more positive way of thinking. You don’t need to hold onto the old belief that doesn’t help you in the long run.

So, with that being said, what mindsets do you need to change? Please do leave a comment for me and I will respond as soon as possible.