I have a Dream – Martin Luther King Jr.


I have a dream. Not the one that Martin Luther King Jnr had, but one of my own. There are so many dreams that you have as a child – some that are almost impossible (like becoming a princess) and others that are more realistic, like becoming a nurse or doctor.

However, childhood dreams do not always come to pass. And sometimes those dreams grow and morph into something else entirely. Does that mean it is wrong to dream as a child? Should you stop your children dreaming? Of course not! Dreams help the creativity side of a child develop and you never know where they could end up in life.

One of my dreams as a child was to be a ballet dancer. We took classes when I was small – can’t remember how old I was, but it was discovered very quickly that I did not possess the co-ordination or the height needed to become one. So that idea I had of myself was never going to come to pass.

I also wanted to have a horse of my own and ride it but that was equally unrealistic. I believe it was in my pre-teen years that I learnt to ride. This I was good at and enjoyed it but again it was not sustainable as a career for me.

You probably had your own ideas of what you wanted to be when you grew up. And probably, like me, a number of different things that were unrealistic in your circumstances or way of life. But that’s ok. We need to have these dreams or visions to help us form our imagination or creative side of our brains.

As you get older, you learn what is possible and probable in your life. You don’t have to stay stagnant in what you do, but can grow and develop yourself as you go through different situations and circumstances.

However, one thing is necessary and many think of it as uncomfortable to mention – you have to mourn or grieve the impossible life you imagined in your youth or young adulthood. People don’t like to talk about it, but it’s a necessary part of learning to accept yourself and your situation as you are.

Now this doesn’t mean that you have to settle for what you have in the present. You can still have a dream or a vision for your future. For many years, I thought my vision was just going to fall in my lap at the right time. But it’s not going to be like that. You have to work at getting it set up so that you will be ready when the time comes for its fruition.

When you have a dream or vision for your future, it needs to be realistic but push you out of your comfort zone. For example, if you say you want to make a million dollars by the end of the year by winning the lottery, it COULD happen but it’s highly unlikely to happen. If you said you wanted to make an extra hundred dollars by doing some extra or different work to your normal job, that is much more realistic and you are capable of achieving it if you plan and work at getting it done.

There is more to life than where you are at time moment. Are you going to prepare yourself for what you dream about? Or will you sit where you are and say it should come to pass on its own without me working for it? You have the choice to make it happen or not.

Dreams

The dreams you have as a child
Are not always meant to come to pass
Some of them will come true
But your life will be transformed.

You think you will do many things
Imagining things that bring forth dreams
And not considering what you have
Or your life now as an adult.

So many things I wanted to be
But my life path has been different
I went down a stranger road
Than the one I had imagined.

However, some dreams do come true
And you find your life made whole
They may be unexpected
But you can make a happy life.

Take your ideas and see what happens
Which ones you can bring forth
They will mark your way in life
And complete you totally.

Spring ushers in new life

photo courtesy of Cheryl-Charles Wentland-Davis

Spring ushers in new life. All around you see beautiful signs of that growth beginning. Yellow is one of the most prominent colours of the season, for example winter aconite, crocus & daffodils shine brightly in spring.

I never really thought about it seriously before. Yes, I knew there was spring and the buds on the trees promised the new life that was to come. And that it was the time lambs were born and you could see them in the fields. But I never considered spring itself.

We all go through different seasons in our lives. My best “spring” was when I met Kevin. In fact, we actually met on 1 March so it was spring outside combined with spring in my heart. It was a new and blessed time for the two of us as we developed our relationship with each other.

I think the interesting thing is that we sometimes go through what seems a mix of seasons at the same time and the lines are never totally defined. In some ways it can be winter and spring at the same time.

Natalie was stillborn on 12 February and although it was one of the most difficult situations Kevin and I had encountered in our marriage thus far. In some ways it was the spring of a new chapter of understanding each other but also the ending of a life that we had been expecting.

Spring is also the season that many children are accepted into the church with their first communion as they begin their new life in Christ. Again this signifies the end of something and the beginning of another.

Actually whenever there is spring or the start of something new, there is always the death of something else. Or another way of looking at it is that when you say yes at the same time you are saying no. For example, yes to joining your life with another, making decisions jointly and no to a single life where you don’t have to check with anyone else because you are alone.

photo courtesy of Cheryl-Charles Wentland-Davis

A spring season in your life can give you such newness and growth and development within yourself that you never imagined you could have. I love the spring feeling and the promise of leaves and fruit to come. Does it always happen? No. But mostly it does. And the promise can bring such delight and joy to your life.

Are you in a spring season of promise in your life? Looking at the beginning of the leaves and flowers of new growth? When something new starts, the old has to go and be left behind. And that’s ok. You can mourn over the past or you can be joyful because of the newness to come. It is your choice what you want to do.