Acts of Kindness

Acts of kindness are never wasted. They can have an impact that goes beyond the single act of one person helping another. It’s like when you drop a stone in a pond: the initial splash can be clearly seen, but there are then also ripples which spread outwards to encompass the whole pond. This “ripple effect” can take so many forms and range from tiny things to massive things.

For me, this week has been rather a big one as I am tackling redoing my website. It is a big job and not one that I particularly relish. But I have been helped by my mentor Linda Clay who has crafted a fantastic site for herself.

Linda has taken time out of her busy schedule to help me with the different problems I have encountered and has shown me the steps I was missing. I am very appreciative of her help and support.

It doesn’t matter what you do in life, helping someone almost always impacts them for the good. Now I’m not saying you should sacrifice your work, your self-care or your family life to help others, but the ripple effect continues. What you have to decide is whether it will be a positive or a negative ripple effect.

Tonight I was chatting to a new friend and she helped me see things that I hadn’t realised were weighing me down. When I was thanking her at the end of our conversation and saying what a blessing she had been, she was delighted to know that she had been able to help me.

I was reminded of a comment in a book that struck me years ago when the author got me thinking about the fact that we don’t tend to compliment people while they are alive but we talk about their good points once they are dead. But we really shouldn’t do this. Why do we wait until they are gone to compliment them or let them know what a blessing they have been to us?

I don’t think it’s wrong to thank people for their acts of kindness. You can carry that ripple effect into your next task or even the next day following and pass it on to others. It is only a small thing but imagine what you could inspire in other people’s lives!

For me there have been many acts of kindness from others, some of which I was able to repay to the person and some I was not. But the ripple effect still continues as the act of kindness is spread to others. We may not get it right for everyone but we can spread the negative or the positive.

And acts of kindness don’t have to be big or cost a lot of money. We can be kind to each other in small things. And you never know what a kind word or a smile might do for someone else.

Have you had any acts of kindness done to you? What was the “ripple effect?” Very rarely is it taken the wrong way and I bet you were able to give back to them or pass it onto someone else.

Issues, Stress, and Overwhelm….Oh My! By Livvie Matthews

There is a saying I like: “Some day’s peanuts and some day’s shells.” Which day are you having?

To top it off, it seems when you look on Facebook all you see is Happy, Happy, Happy posts. So am I the only person that has a “shell” of a day sometimes? 🙂

I don’t know about you, but I’d like to see some posts about the real struggles they are having along the way and more importantly….how they overcame them.

I struggle and I don’t know of anyone who doesn’t, or who hasn’t, struggled at one time or another. We have our ups and our downs. Things work and they don’t work. There are successes and there are failures. It’s not always roses.

Some of the issues I deal with:
Hubby is a dialysis patient and on dialysis 3 times a week
I do all the driving now since hubby also has a vision problem
Had to put our 17 year old cat to sleep leaving a big void in our lives
I have arthritis in both knees making walking more difficult at times
With hubby being unable to help, I do 98% of all the house hold tasks
Trying to stay focused on marketing my business

I’m an online marketing business coach and a solutions provider. I love helping my clients and students find a way to overcome overwhelm and frustration associated with online marketing and building their business.

I don’t try to sell them on making 6 figures or even 5 figure incomes. I just like helping them get from where they are right now, to where they would like to be for a better lifestyle a few “notches” beyond where they are now. That IS completely doable.

Do I ever feel like throwing up my hands and quitting? Yes, but it’s normal and is just a fleeting thought, because I really enjoy what I do…even when it’s during those “shell” days 🙂

When you see all those Happy, Happy, Happy posts, just remember: Even though you don’t see them, those people have, or have had, issues of some kind too. They too, go through “shell” days!

So how can you work though them because what works for one person may not work for you.

• Find how and when you work best…and just keep pushing through. Maybe you work better in the afternoons or evenings. Not everyone is a morning person and that’s OK!

• Focus! Tackle one issue or one project at a time. Multitasking is not always the answer and can lead to having too many projects going at one time and some not even getting completed.

• Create your priority list of 3 items for every day. Then put your blinders on and focus!! Set a timer for some specific time you just work on getting the projects done. No emails, no phone, no texting, and no social media. Focus on the task at hand!

Also as you work through your issues, create some blog posts and social media posts, even post in some of the groups you’re in…about the issue and how you worked through the issue. You could even do a webinar or FB LIVE video. This will help keep you visible to your tribe and audience.

I guarantee you there will be others reading your posts that are going through the same issues and will not only relate to your posts but will love seeing how you worked through it. It gives them hope!

Sometimes it seems there are days that are way more shells than peanuts, but let’s look closer at that. Most of the time for every one peanut shell, there are two or three peanuts inside that one shell.

So even on a “shell” day, we might end up with more “peanuts”… if we look close enough.

BIO:

Livvie Matthews ​​​​​​​is an online marketing business coach and solutions provider. Through online programs and coaching, Livvie teaches her clients how to remove the frustration and overwhelm of online marketing and helps them get from where they are right now, to where they would like to be for a better lifestyle a few “notches” beyond where they are now.

Prior to starting her coaching business, Livvie spent 30+ years working front desk as office manager in the dental profession, 20+ years online marketing experience, and worked monthly social media management in her own business for two years. Livvie’s walked in your shoes and knows the value online marketing can bring to your business.

If you’re ready to start building and expanding your online presence she invites you to schedule a Complimentary Business Strategy Session at http://www.LivvieMatthews.com/strategy . She will get on the phone with you, listen and then discuss your circumstances, and you will usually leave the call with at least one strategy for you to implement when you get off the phone! Just follow the Steps and schedule a time that’s convenient to YOU!

It’s the small things

Often in life we look at the big things and imagine they are the things that cause us a problem. We tend to overlook the small things because they don’t appear to be as important as the massive thing standing in our way.

If we really want to live mindfully in the present, we need to focus on the immediate and look at what is going on in our lives and families. Noticing things around you, including your feelings, is vitally important.

How often do we look at and analyse our feelings? If you’re anything like I used to be, hardly at all. We are so quick to reply “fine” to people who ask how we are and often I know that I haven’t been good at pushing to find out if that is really true or not when I can see something is wrong by someone’s face. It’s just a small thing that has a wider impact on others around us as well as ourselves. Next time you notice someone is not good when they say fine, why not take a few minutes and give them a chance to talk about it there and then? If you really cannot spare the time, why not contact them later on in the day to double-check on them?

Another apparently small thing is smiling. I must admit, when I am having a hard time (or what I feel is one) I tend to not smile so easily. But you know what? It’s another small thing to smile and cheer your family, friends and acquaintances up, but boy can it make a difference to their day as well as your own. They are much more likely to smile back and if they are struggling it will help them too.

When we went through our losses, both Kevin and I realised that it really was the small things that mattered. People who took time out of their days to check on us, ask how we really were, brought chocolate or flowers or sent a card on the loss date were so appreciated. The smallest things made the biggest difference to us at those times in particular.

I mentioned this briefly in my post on Sunday – how to develop an attitude of gratitude, that I needed the “right” feel of pen, paper, keyboard, ipad to be able to create. I had NO idea it had such an impact on me until Sunday. I wrote four different blogposts before Kevin managed to find a keyboard and position that I was comfortable with. Once that happened, I realised that this seemingly small thing made a vast difference to me. I had my creative ability back and figured out that a lot of what I had been feeling in the past few days was because my creativity had been stifled by the “wrong” feel of a new keyboard and ipad position. I had no idea that it had been making me feel bad physically, mentally and emotionally.

Massive life changes most certainly do impact us and I am not forgetting that. But in these life changes, can you find the small things that are either helping or hindering you? The ones that help you, try and develop an attitude of gratitude for and the ones that are causing problems, look at what they are and how you can change or improve them.

I would love to hear from you what some of the small things are for you. If you would wish to write a comment, I would love to see it or if you want to message me privately, you can do so on the facebook page.