Do you control it OR does it control you?

Does it control you OR do you control it?

Does it control you or do you control it. Interesting statement. I cannot take credit for the blogpost – it came from a friend of mine who has known me for over 20 years.

Instantly in my mind came a graphic picture of two elements warring against each other, both determined to win but the victory undecided. In fact, it’s the one above this post here. So we chatted about it and I was saying I was going to create it and here it is!

You see, it doesn’t refer to a particular situation or circumstance, it can apply to anything. However, if you took this and used this to make people do just as you wanted, then that would be an inappropriate usage of the power that is within that statement. Control of one human being over another is wrong, no matter WHAT the circumstances.

Pondering is quite illuminating sometimes and I started to ponder on this. How would I be if I chose this in every situation in my life? How would this then impact my family? You see, we are all linked together and could never live on an island alone, without help, without food or without clothing and without drink?

But I am talking of my immediate family. I am going to be shaking the way we live and yes, it involves a number of changes. I know it won’t be easy, but we can get through it together as a family and yes, that’s important because Johnathan is moving up in life and some things need to change now that he is coming up to school age.

But then I thought what do I need to do for myself? I have been talking about self-care but relating that to just being a mindless person watching endless tv…so far removed from what it ACTUALLY is.

Has it got to the stage of controlling me? Not quite yet and it won’t! Sometimes you just need a little push to realise who you are and what you are intended to do on this earth. Your purpose for living hasn’t expired yet – if it had, you wouldn’t be here yourself!

I’ve had some knocks in the last couple of months, but that’s ok. It doesn’t matter if you need to take time to recover from things or the shock of them. Get yourselves out there again like me and go get those goals!

I heard or read a story (I can’t remember where) that a stonemason was sitting by the side of the road hitting a rock. A child was observing each thwack of the tools as the stonemason continued his work. Finally, he said to the stonemason “which thwack of the hammer breaks the stone you are working on?” The stonemason replied that it wasn’t the first one or the last one, or all the ones in between. It was all of them TOGETHER that created the crack which split the stone.” So don’t forget the little steps that got you to where you are.

So my question to you is…..Does it control you or do you control it?

Control

Control, control who has control?
Is it me or is it you?
Life continues as it is
Or changes as it goes.

All the different things in life
Control can be unusual
You didn’t think it mattered
But you did not have control.

There are so many things in life
Where you think you have control
But do you know what happens
When it controls your mind.

Today I want what’s best for you
And give your life some freedom
What you believe will change your life
If only you will live it.

Today is a gift

Today is a gift, how do you feel about it? Every day is a full 24 hours. There is no difference in any day, in the sense that you don’t get 23 hours or 25 hours. Each one is the same length of time as the last and tomorrow will be the same as well.

But here it is, today. What do you think of it? Well, to be perfectly honest, in some ways it doesn’t really matter how you think about it. The gift of a day is a precious thing because not everybody gets one.

I love the fact that there is always something good that happens in every day that can be viewed as a gift. There are good days, bad days, fun days, joyful days, sad days, enjoyable days and everything in between. Sometimes a mix of emotions happen in a day as well.

Bot how do you view the day? I try to find something in every day that I can be grateful for. There are some days I really struggle to find something to write in a post on my facebook personal page and something different on my business page. Life doesn’t always go smoothly, but that is how it is. You cannot change the bumps in the road, but you can change how you view them.

No matter what happens, each day IS a gift. I think Kevin and I were strongly reminded of this fact when we lost our stillborn daughter, Natalie. Not only were we able to look back and measure the days she was in my womb and the things we learnt about her during this time, but it was a bitter sweet experience.

Looking back, we can see the precious gifts that came with the days that were hard with each of our losses. Each day is a wonderful gift, but it isn’t necessarily wrapped up smartly with a beautiful bow on top.

Unexpected things occur and you cannot plan for them. Life doesn’t always unfold the way we anticipate. However, we can be flexible in our planning and change things as circumstances dictate.

Every day of your life contains a precious gift. Today is the start of a new year. It doesn’t matter how you have viewed life in the past, you can begin to choose how you will both today and in the future.

Can you commit to begin looking for that gift in every day? It may not be easy, you may not see it on the actual day and that’s ok. Unwrapping a gift isn’t always easy – sometimes the sellotape is harder to tear than you thought it might be, other times the packaging presents challenges that you never believed was even possible.

Going forward I am still committed to trying to find that gift in every day, not just today. The gift in today for me is that we had a wonderful day together as an extended family.