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The best Christmas

This year our Christmas was the best Christmas yet in spite of all of us being poorly. Each of us was sick in different ways. Now you could have looked at it and said this was the worst Christmas ever because we were all ill. But actually it was the opposite.

I was chatting with Kevin and trying to work out in my mind WHY this wasn’t a terrible day. To all outside observers, being woken by a poorly child partway through the night was not the ideal by any stretch of the imagination.

Now I can look back in my life and see times where I was poorly at Christmas time and it was not a pleasant experience. So what made this one different? Well, first of all and most of all I think, I am in a family where we all actually DO love each other and don’t say that we do but act the opposite.

The film My One Christmas Wish was on Christmas 24 and was one of the many I watched and really enjoyed. Again, this was something you could have looked at and said there was no way the woman could have found a family and lots of other people a family either. But she did. She posted an ad on Craigslist looking for a family and got so many responses she threw a party for them all and they ended up meeting and getting another person or family to share Christmas with.

You might wonder why I mention that story. Well, firstly it is a great story in and of itself, and secondly, it celebrated the love we can find within a family at Christmas time. I’m not saying we definitely will – that would be giving you false hope. But what I am saying is that not only is it possible, but the love you share with others at Christmas time can have a ripple effect – like the dropping of a stone in water.

Now I know we are a small family of 3 that celebrate Christmas together, but it is still wonderful that we can. We all love each other and it is love that makes the difference between having a good time or getting hurt and upset. If you all care for and love each other, there will be a dramatic transformation in your life.

So I guess the question now is – what are you going to do to make it happen, not just at Christmas time but life in general? It doesn’t have to just be for Christmas and possibly the new year and then you stop, it can be for always if you decide to do it.

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Make decisions

 

There are many times in life we have to make decisions – big ones, small ones, middle size ones. Ones that you regret and ones that you love. There are many tiny ones that you have to make in one day. What to wear, what to eat, what to drink. Sometimes there are so many decisions to make you end up with decision fatigue.

When I moved from England to Scotland, I really struggled to make decisions. I didn’t realise that making negative decisions was making a choice as well. Negative mindsets can steer you on a path to more depression, more anxiety and more distress in your life.

I’m not saying I make great decisions every day – in fact I don’t believe anyone can. But it is what you do with the choices you make. Do you take the negative experiences and change them to a positive? I don’t always manage to do so but it is possible.

If you do end up with a negative mindset or decision fatigue, it is important to allow your body and mind to rest and recover in whatever way suits you best. For me, colouring or artwork or writing has been a release and I feel rested and rejuvenated once I have completed some.

There are times where it is hard to see what the “right” decision is. But you still have to make one. At the end of the day it doesn’t matter what decision you make, you can learn from it and grow in life.

For me, one of the biggest decisions of my life was meeting Kevin online at first and then in person and then us deciding to get married. These were all decisions that we made together. It has led me on the pathway to build a website and use my creativity to produce not only artwork I love but some intuitive artwork for others.

One thing I would caution is not to make big decisions when you are tired or hungry. At this point you can’t concentrate enough to make a wise decision. So give your body what it needs first.

What do you think about making decisions? Do you enjoy doing so? Have you made decisions that transformed your life and set you on a different path?

I would love to hear from you. Your life is precious and affects the people around you. So take good care of yourself as we enter into this holiday season of Christmas. Sometimes we can get so caught up in making the day perfect for everyone we forget the self-care that we ourselves need.

So why not make good decisions this holiday season? Don’t try and do it all but give yourself grace and time to rejuvenate as well. Maybe it means the food is not perfect or everything is done on the day you would like, but that’s ok. If you enjoy making everything perfect, that’s fine too. Life will continue and things will change but that is how it works.

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So what flavour are you?

What flavour are you? I read a post someone put in a group on Facebook the other day and that talked about flavours of ice cream and that she had tried to be vanilla ice cream because most other ice cream flavours are built on the basis of this one ice cream. What she began to realise is that you can’t be vanilla ice cream to everyone.

Personally, my immediate choice was chocolate because that’s what I love but then I suddenly stopped and thought “Am I really? Is that how I would describe myself?”

As I began to think, I realised I wasn’t chocolate flavour after all. If you were talking about my past life, then yes you might have believed me to be that, but that wasn’t actually me.

Now I would say I am actually honeycomb flavour ice cream. Sweet and a bit crunchy and a little different. I am an intuitive artist and my life has gone a different direction to the way I had imagined.

But you know what? I am happy being a honeycomb flavour ice cream. This may not have been the life I expected, but I have a wonderful husband, a son, 3 cats and 1 dog and 5 babies in heaven. A totally difference experience, but I am not what I was.

Actually, as we grow and develop in life, I wonder if we change flavours of ice cream? No, I think it is the toppings that change as we grow and develop in life. We have our character and personality in us from when we are in the womb. What changes isn’t the stuff that makes us who we are, but the externals can make us appear to be something we are not.

So what flavour of ice cream are you? Chocolate? Honeycomb? Orange? Lemon? At the end of the day, it doesn’t really matter. What you are makes you unique and nobody in the world is exactly like you. Even if you have identical twins, they are not the same just because they look alike.

You just need to express yourself as you are. Don’t try to be someone else. It won’t fit right on you. If you’re smooth chocolate, don’t try to be chocolate chips flavour. People will feel that you are being false. They won’t know why or how but they will know something is off.

So go on out there and be the flavour you are. Don’t let someone try to convince you otherwise. You won’t be best friends with everyone you meet, and that’s ok. Your character and personality need to stand out. Learn to love and accept exactly who you are.

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Body shaming or acceptance

I was watching Mass today on EWTN and the priest in his homily was talking about body shaming. It got me thinking about how the media portrays how they perceive people should look.

Body shaming is unhelpful and can lead to people becoming unhealthy and not giving their bodies enough fuel to function properly. This then causes problems at their work or in their home as they cannot perform the jobs they normally do.

When you think about it though, I believe it is important to not allow these beliefs to infiltrate your life. If you have a child and they see you either talking negatively about how people look, they may start to wonder if they look “ok” or not and attempt to become what they believe you want.

At the end of the day, how you look is not important in the grand scheme of things. You can be the most gorgeous looking person on the planet but have a terrible attitude and always attempt to shame others because of how you think. This is unhelpful and causes such stress and distress to others.

The character you have and portray and how you treat others, is much more important than how you look. Having said that, you do have a responsibility to take care of yourself and your body. You cannot sit there, stuffing your face all day and then say that it doesn’t matter if your character is good.

You only get one body in this life and you need to take care of it. Yes, you may be what people consider to be an unhealthy weight, but if you are taking care of yourself and living a good life, so that you are healthy, you are taking care of what you have.

Having said all that, I had a disability where my face basically needed reconstruction. I had to have a number of operations to fix the problems. Sometimes this can happen and it’s ok to get the problems fixed. It doesn’t change who you are inside – your character remains the same.

In life, you need to be able to accept yourself and others around you. No man is an island living totally isolated from everybody else. You impact the people around you at work and at home with your character and personality.

So what you need to do is take care of yourself and not allow yourself to be persuaded by the media that what they portray is necessarily how you should be. For years I struggled with how I looked but now that I am older, I understand that I need to accept myself and how I am. How I look is not important but I need to make the best of myself in every way and be the best me I can be.

Do you accept yourself how you are and others around you? Acceptance, understanding and speaking/writing nicely about others and yourself is the important thing in life. I would love to hear from you if any of what I have said resonates with you.