I have a Dream – Martin Luther King Jr.


I have a dream. Not the one that Martin Luther King Jnr had, but one of my own. There are so many dreams that you have as a child – some that are almost impossible (like becoming a princess) and others that are more realistic, like becoming a nurse or doctor.

However, childhood dreams do not always come to pass. And sometimes those dreams grow and morph into something else entirely. Does that mean it is wrong to dream as a child? Should you stop your children dreaming? Of course not! Dreams help the creativity side of a child develop and you never know where they could end up in life.

One of my dreams as a child was to be a ballet dancer. We took classes when I was small – can’t remember how old I was, but it was discovered very quickly that I did not possess the co-ordination or the height needed to become one. So that idea I had of myself was never going to come to pass.

I also wanted to have a horse of my own and ride it but that was equally unrealistic. I believe it was in my pre-teen years that I learnt to ride. This I was good at and enjoyed it but again it was not sustainable as a career for me.

You probably had your own ideas of what you wanted to be when you grew up. And probably, like me, a number of different things that were unrealistic in your circumstances or way of life. But that’s ok. We need to have these dreams or visions to help us form our imagination or creative side of our brains.

As you get older, you learn what is possible and probable in your life. You don’t have to stay stagnant in what you do, but can grow and develop yourself as you go through different situations and circumstances.

However, one thing is necessary and many think of it as uncomfortable to mention – you have to mourn or grieve the impossible life you imagined in your youth or young adulthood. People don’t like to talk about it, but it’s a necessary part of learning to accept yourself and your situation as you are.

Now this doesn’t mean that you have to settle for what you have in the present. You can still have a dream or a vision for your future. For many years, I thought my vision was just going to fall in my lap at the right time. But it’s not going to be like that. You have to work at getting it set up so that you will be ready when the time comes for its fruition.

When you have a dream or vision for your future, it needs to be realistic but push you out of your comfort zone. For example, if you say you want to make a million dollars by the end of the year by winning the lottery, it COULD happen but it’s highly unlikely to happen. If you said you wanted to make an extra hundred dollars by doing some extra or different work to your normal job, that is much more realistic and you are capable of achieving it if you plan and work at getting it done.

There is more to life than where you are at time moment. Are you going to prepare yourself for what you dream about? Or will you sit where you are and say it should come to pass on its own without me working for it? You have the choice to make it happen or not.

Dreams

The dreams you have as a child
Are not always meant to come to pass
Some of them will come true
But your life will be transformed.

You think you will do many things
Imagining things that bring forth dreams
And not considering what you have
Or your life now as an adult.

So many things I wanted to be
But my life path has been different
I went down a stranger road
Than the one I had imagined.

However, some dreams do come true
And you find your life made whole
They may be unexpected
But you can make a happy life.

Take your ideas and see what happens
Which ones you can bring forth
They will mark your way in life
And complete you totally.

The Summer of Life

The summer of life. What a beautiful statement to be able to make. Just think about it a bit. Summer is beautiful and warm and refreshing. You can sit outside and just soak up the sun’s rays.

So exactly what do we get in this season of life? The vision of summer conjures up images of people on rivers or canals in some kind of boat. Or maybe you’re not that kind of person. Perhaps you like the beach? Or do you go exploring?

Kevin and I love nothing more than to pick a place on the map and tell the navigation to ignore all motorways. We have discovered beautiful countryside this way. And met some lovely people doing different crafting things.

Summer holidays are also part of the equation of it all. Children have a break during this period and they mostly love it! This is a beautiful time where they are able to grow and explore and learn and develop without the constraints of the classroom.

But what about the summer of life? The one within your heart and soul? It is a time where you get to rejoice at the beauty surrounding you as the plants and trees bear fruit. This is not the time for gathering it all up – it needs to grow to full fruition.

My summer of life is wild and exciting. I am looking forward to the full beauty at the end of the summer and the beginning of autumn where we begin to gather the fruit in and store it up for the season that is coming.

You might wonder how I know this is the season of life that I am in. Well, I will tell you. My winter season has been and gone, the leanness of nothing within is past. Spring entered my soul and I can point to the places where small seeds began to sprout. Now I am starting to know and understand things I never did before. I am beginning to see ideas spring from my mind and learn the beauty of colour and words and shape and form.

Are you also in the summer of your life? What can you see emerging from the seeds that were planted during the springtime? Your life is important and precious and I would love to hear from you.

Trees and their significance

Photo courtesy of Ailie Bauman

I was chatting with one of my friends earlier today and we were talking about trees and their significance to each of us. She had shown me a drawing she had made of an oak tree in winter.

We then started to discuss trees and how they look so mystically majestic in winter time. They show off their proud beauty when they share their total emptiness of both fruit and leaves. If you go in winter to view a forest, it looks entirely different to how it looks in summer because they are different seasons.

Winter is a time when animals hibernate and deciduous trees have shed their leaves and stand tall and proud in their own beauty. It is also a time when they use the cold weather and begin to build up the reserves they need for the next cycle of seasons coming up. I remember in Laura Ingalls Wilder book (I think it was Farmer Boy if I remember correctly) that Alonzo’s Father called snow the “poor man’s fertilizer” and he used it himself to help prepare the ground for the coming seasons.

I then started to think about how our lives are similar to that. We go through seasons in life. Seasons of growth and seasons of cutting back. Seasons where we feel we are alone and naked in our bareness and completely exposed to the elements. There are times we feel that we are in a holding place or that we are being cut back for new growth to form.

Sometimes we feel naked and exposed to the elements. A tree doesn’t grow strong when it is sheltered by anything else – it grows strong when it is exposed to the elements and can stand on its own. I felt so exposed when we lost our stillborn daughter, Natalie. I felt naked and lost in my own storm. But it helped me to grow into the next season of my life. However, I didn’t understand that at the time it was happening.

Just like the tree, we can stand in the majestic mystical beauty of our bareness and grow ready for the next season of life. Sometimes our lives feel “put on hold” but this is a season where we can cut back and rest and recover for the next growing season.

What season in life are you in just now? I would say that I am in the spring as I begin to flower and bloom and grow my business. I don’t know the fullness of myself or my business but I DO know that I CAN grow into the next season of my life and reach the time of ripened fruit.

I would love to hear what season you believe you are in at the moment and why you think that. It is so interesting to discover that we are all on this cycle of growing and changing but we don’t all do it at exactly the same time. If everyone were babies at the same time there would be nobody to look after them and feed and clothe them and ensure they were safe and warm.

Encouragement and limiting beliefs

There are times you need encouragement to help you stop living with limiting beliefs. Changing your mindset is not an easy thing to do so if you have someone supporting you to do it, that really helps.

To be honest with you, everyone benefits from help and support in whatever they do. I believe it is always good to try and encourage people if you can because you have no idea what they have been going through in a day.

One of my limiting beliefs that has caused quite a lot of self-sabotaging has been that I cannot complete something I start, especially if it is something artistic or craft oriented. The trouble is, I often start any projects I wish to complete with a negative mindset. This is something that causes me to sabotage projects subconsciously.

In the end, I start doing things and don’t complete them. This is not a good way to function in life. Perfectionist tendencies don’t help either. I want to complete things and do them without a mistake. However, this is not realistic.

Children watch everything you do and I don’t want my son not accepting completing something because it isn’t perfect. He needs to be shown that finishing tasks is important. I don’t want him to cultivate a limited mindset because I haven’t developed a growth mindset in myself.

Encouragement I would say is the backbone of being able to change your way of living and core beliefs inside yourself. If you cannot encourage yourself with your inner talk, then maybe you need someone on the outside to help you.

One of my friends said to me to look at it as though I am winning every time I complete a row of knitting or do something else that I would like to achieve. This has actually helped me to feel that I am doing something positive and creative at the same time. I can see the knitting grow as I work at it. No, it doesn’t look totally utterly perfect but it IS good enough.

Some things need practice and will develop slower in your life than others. And that’s ok. Not all your limiting beliefs will be transformed in an instant. But by working on them and either being your own cheerleader or having someone else to support you will really help things to be different in your life.