I have a Dream – Martin Luther King Jr.


I have a dream. Not the one that Martin Luther King Jnr had, but one of my own. There are so many dreams that you have as a child – some that are almost impossible (like becoming a princess) and others that are more realistic, like becoming a nurse or doctor.

However, childhood dreams do not always come to pass. And sometimes those dreams grow and morph into something else entirely. Does that mean it is wrong to dream as a child? Should you stop your children dreaming? Of course not! Dreams help the creativity side of a child develop and you never know where they could end up in life.

One of my dreams as a child was to be a ballet dancer. We took classes when I was small – can’t remember how old I was, but it was discovered very quickly that I did not possess the co-ordination or the height needed to become one. So that idea I had of myself was never going to come to pass.

I also wanted to have a horse of my own and ride it but that was equally unrealistic. I believe it was in my pre-teen years that I learnt to ride. This I was good at and enjoyed it but again it was not sustainable as a career for me.

You probably had your own ideas of what you wanted to be when you grew up. And probably, like me, a number of different things that were unrealistic in your circumstances or way of life. But that’s ok. We need to have these dreams or visions to help us form our imagination or creative side of our brains.

As you get older, you learn what is possible and probable in your life. You don’t have to stay stagnant in what you do, but can grow and develop yourself as you go through different situations and circumstances.

However, one thing is necessary and many think of it as uncomfortable to mention – you have to mourn or grieve the impossible life you imagined in your youth or young adulthood. People don’t like to talk about it, but it’s a necessary part of learning to accept yourself and your situation as you are.

Now this doesn’t mean that you have to settle for what you have in the present. You can still have a dream or a vision for your future. For many years, I thought my vision was just going to fall in my lap at the right time. But it’s not going to be like that. You have to work at getting it set up so that you will be ready when the time comes for its fruition.

When you have a dream or vision for your future, it needs to be realistic but push you out of your comfort zone. For example, if you say you want to make a million dollars by the end of the year by winning the lottery, it COULD happen but it’s highly unlikely to happen. If you said you wanted to make an extra hundred dollars by doing some extra or different work to your normal job, that is much more realistic and you are capable of achieving it if you plan and work at getting it done.

There is more to life than where you are at time moment. Are you going to prepare yourself for what you dream about? Or will you sit where you are and say it should come to pass on its own without me working for it? You have the choice to make it happen or not.

Dreams

The dreams you have as a child
Are not always meant to come to pass
Some of them will come true
But your life will be transformed.

You think you will do many things
Imagining things that bring forth dreams
And not considering what you have
Or your life now as an adult.

So many things I wanted to be
But my life path has been different
I went down a stranger road
Than the one I had imagined.

However, some dreams do come true
And you find your life made whole
They may be unexpected
But you can make a happy life.

Take your ideas and see what happens
Which ones you can bring forth
They will mark your way in life
And complete you totally.

The Summer of Life

The summer of life. What a beautiful statement to be able to make. Just think about it a bit. Summer is beautiful and warm and refreshing. You can sit outside and just soak up the sun’s rays.

So exactly what do we get in this season of life? The vision of summer conjures up images of people on rivers or canals in some kind of boat. Or maybe you’re not that kind of person. Perhaps you like the beach? Or do you go exploring?

Kevin and I love nothing more than to pick a place on the map and tell the navigation to ignore all motorways. We have discovered beautiful countryside this way. And met some lovely people doing different crafting things.

Summer holidays are also part of the equation of it all. Children have a break during this period and they mostly love it! This is a beautiful time where they are able to grow and explore and learn and develop without the constraints of the classroom.

But what about the summer of life? The one within your heart and soul? It is a time where you get to rejoice at the beauty surrounding you as the plants and trees bear fruit. This is not the time for gathering it all up – it needs to grow to full fruition.

My summer of life is wild and exciting. I am looking forward to the full beauty at the end of the summer and the beginning of autumn where we begin to gather the fruit in and store it up for the season that is coming.

You might wonder how I know this is the season of life that I am in. Well, I will tell you. My winter season has been and gone, the leanness of nothing within is past. Spring entered my soul and I can point to the places where small seeds began to sprout. Now I am starting to know and understand things I never did before. I am beginning to see ideas spring from my mind and learn the beauty of colour and words and shape and form.

Are you also in the summer of your life? What can you see emerging from the seeds that were planted during the springtime? Your life is important and precious and I would love to hear from you.

Differences that make us special

When I moved from the south of England to live near Glasgow in Scotland, I found the way of life and living such a contrast because it was so different. Two things I observed were no manic lifestyle and when people mentioned traffic jams on the M8, it was actually what would have been considered a good day on the M25!

It wasn’t just the contrast of lifestyles but the slower pace of life suited my personality much better. I don’t enjoy being pressurised AT ALL and initially there were none. Or I should say it felt like none because nobody expected me to live or behave a certain way. Some people love constant hustle and bustle, but I don’t.

Have you ever known that every snowflake that falls to the ground is different? In all of the world, there is nobody exactly like you. They may look like you but do not have your character and personality. In fact, how they express themselves will be unique as well.

What makes life so special is the differences. You have been gifted with talents that are not like mine. If you enjoy crafts – like I do, there will still be contrasts between the two of us. I will never be able to make or create something exactly like you because I am not you and never will be.

But you know what? That’s ok. The fact that each person on this planet is unique and there has never been nor ever will be someone like you is amazing, precious and wonderful. You need to find your purpose and passion in life. It is not for anybody to tell you what it is. You are blessed with a mind, body and soul of your own to be used for a particular purpose.

For many years I wondered not only what I was passionate about but how I would fulfil the purpose of my life as well. Now I am beginning to discover the talents and gifts I have been given in ways I never expected. I know the point I am moving towards and am beginning to take the steps to be able to get there.

You can do this, too. Your journey through life will be unique because you are. As we continue in our path, we encounter others that we may or may not become close to. Some are meant to be in our lives for only a short time while others are a more permanent feature.

Have you found your passion yet? Do you know why you are here on this earth right now? I wonder who it is your life is meant to touch. What are your gifts and talents you are blessed with and how are you going to improve them? I would love to hear from you.

When Fear Stopped Me

This week I was reminded of a time in my past when fear stopped me. And I mean physically stopped dead in the middle of the road. I was standing there crossing the street and stopped in the middle waiting for the traffic to be clear. As I was standing there, I suddenly realised I couldn’t remember how to cross the road. How on earth could I get to the other side?

Fortunately I did remember after a while. I honestly don’t know how long I spent stood stock still in the middle of the road, but I can tell you a number of cars came past me as I stood there.

Fear can be so insidious, I must admit. You can think that you are ok and you can just get on with things and discover that suddenly you stop dead and wonder if you can continue. You question not only yourself but your ability to do things can be compromised.

You have probably heard the stories of soldiers that suddenly can’t carry on with the job they are meant to do in the middle of war. In the past these people were shot as cowards or deserters. Now things have moved on in the area of mental health and PTSD and there is more understanding of these things. I can’t say that everyone finds the help they need – they don’t. But that doesn’t mean it isn’t available somewhere.

As a child, I believed that no matter what I did, I would never be able to achieve in life. In spite of my love for history, the degree I got in it, the fact that I managed to achieve Grade VI on the clarinet, Grade III on the piano, Grade IV on recorder, and also a masters degree, I never felt that I had done anything worthwhile.

This is simply not true. However, I must admit fear has stopped me more times than I want to remember. But you know what? Looking back at the past and dwelling on the times you were stopped by fear doesn’t do you any good. What you need to remember is not the fear, but what it was that got you going again.

The past is the past and unless it helps you with the future, there is no point in living/thinking of it. Your life WILL be different as you grow and develop anyway but you can make it a full life, a contented life, the life YOU want to live, not what other people want you to, or you think they want you to.

Fear does not have to rule your life. I’m not saying it won’t come knocking at your door. You may have given way to it a lot and it takes time to change your mindset. I was living mostly in my past and remembering all the bad or negative things.

As I was talking to Linda Clay she was telling me that I have a great life. Yes, it was different to what I planned, but I have SO many things I can talk about. I CAN change the ending.

My life now is fuller than it ever has been before and I can make it even more so as I develop myself and change that instant fear mindset. I have so many things I can talk about – my family life, the unexpected passion I have discovered when someone gives me an idea of something they wish to be created through colour and form and I can take time to ask them questions and visualise what they want me to do.

You don’t know what you are capable of until you try. Discovering your passion may take you time, as it has me, but that doesn’t mean you can’t do so. The possibilities are endless. No, you won’t want to do everything in life. That isn’t realistic. There are things you will be better at and that’s ok.

Do you know your passion? If you do, I would love to hear what it is. If you don’t yet, take courage that it is still possible to find it and you can do it. Fear does not have to rule your life.