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Trees and their significance

I was chatting with one of my friends earlier today and we were talking about trees and their significance to each of us. She had shown me a drawing she had made of an oak tree in winter.

We then started to discuss trees and how they look so mystically majestic in the winter time. They show off their proud beauty when they share their total emptiness of both fruit and leaves. If you go in winter to view a forest, it looks entirely different from how it looks in summer because they are different seasons.

Winter is a time when animals hibernate and deciduous trees have shed their leaves and stand tall and proud in their own beauty. It is also a time when they use the cold weather and begin to build up the reserves they need for the next cycle of seasons coming up. I remember in Laura Ingalls Wilder book (I think it was Farmer Boy if I remember correctly) that Alonzo’s Father called snow the “poor man’s fertilizer” and he used it himself to help prepare the ground for the coming seasons.

I then started to think about how our lives are similar to that. We go through seasons in life. Seasons of growth and seasons of cutting back. Seasons where we feel we are alone and naked in our bareness and completely exposed to the elements. There are times we feel that we are in a holding place or that we are being cut back for new growth to form.

Sometimes we feel naked and exposed to the elements. A tree doesn’t grow strong when it is sheltered by anything else – it grows strong when it is exposed to the elements and can stand on its own. I felt so exposed when we lost our stillborn daughter, Natalie. I felt naked and lost in my own storm. But it helped me to grow into the next season of my life. However, I didn’t understand that at the time it was happening.

Just like the tree, we can stand in the majestic mystical beauty of our bareness and grow ready for the next season of life. Sometimes our lives feel “put on hold” but this is a season where we can cut back and rest and recover for the next growing season.

What season in life are you in just now? I would say that I am in the spring as I begin to flower and bloom and grow my business. I don’t know the fullness of myself or my business but I DO know that I CAN grow into the next season of my life and reach the time of ripened fruit.

I would love to hear what season you believe you are in at the moment and why you think that. It is so interesting to discover that we are all on this cycle of growing and changing but we don’t all do it at exactly the same time. If everyone were babies at the same time there would be nobody to look after them and feed and clothe them and ensure they were safe and warm.

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Differences that make us special

When I moved from the south of England to live near Glasgow in Scotland, I found the way of life and living such a contrast because it was so different. Two things I observed were no manic lifestyle and when people mentioned traffic jams on the M8, it was actually what would have been considered a good day on the M25!

It wasn’t just the contrast of lifestyles but the slower pace of life suited my personality much better. I don’t enjoy being pressurised AT ALL and initially there were none. Or I should say it felt like none because nobody expected me to live or behave a certain way. Some people love constant hustle and bustle, but I don’t.

Have you ever known that every snowflake that falls to the ground is different? In all of the world, there is nobody exactly like you. They may look like you but do not have your character and personality. In fact, how they express themselves will be unique as well.

What makes life so special is the differences. You have been gifted with talents that are not like mine. If you enjoy crafts – like I do, there will still be contrasts between the two of us. I will never be able to make or create something exactly like you because I am not you and never will be.

But you know what? That’s ok. The fact that each person on this planet is unique and there has never been nor ever will be someone like you is amazing, precious and wonderful. You need to find your purpose and passion in life. It is not for anybody to tell you what it is. You are blessed with a mind, body and soul of your own to be used for a particular purpose.

For many years I wondered not only what I was passionate about but how I would fulfil the purpose of my life as well. Now I am beginning to discover the talents and gifts I have been given in ways I never expected. I know the point I am moving towards and am beginning to take the steps to be able to get there.

You can do this, too. Your journey through life will be unique because you are. As we continue in our path, we encounter others that we may or may not become close to. Some are meant to be in our lives for only a short time while others are a more permanent feature.

Have you found your passion yet? Do you know why you are here on this earth right now? I wonder who it is your life is meant to touch. What are your gifts and talents you are blessed with and how are you going to improve them? I would love to hear from you.

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Unrealistic Expectations in Life

Unrealistic expectations can come in many ways – imposed on us by ourselves or other people. There are times it can be our understanding of others that is incorrect, but we have the power to change all that. We can discover the real truth of where our and other people’s abilities are. This can bring such peace into our lives.

So let’s start with our comprehension of what we can and cannot do. Are we realistic? Do we push ourselves beyond our abilities which leads to burnout and prevents us from enjoying others and fulfilling the purpose in our lives? Or have we been accepting a lower standard and not allowed ourselves to function properly? I must admit I have been guilty of both ends of this spectrum. While we do either, we do not have a truthful viewpoint of ourselves.

And where do we stand with other people? Do we attempt to encourage them to perform to the best of their ability? Or are we happy with a lower standard for them? Sometimes we have false expectations of others as well as ourselves. Again, I am not saying I am proficient in finding the correct balance in this area, but that it is possible to do so. If you want the best for others, gentle encouragement is the right way to go. There is no need to push others beyond that which they are capable of, but you can enjoy seeing them blossom as they begin to believe in themselves.

Sometimes we believe that other people are judging us and what we do. This may not be the case, but this reveals our own insecurities and people pleasing tendencies. But the reality of the case may be completely contrary to our understanding. We can think others judge us by a harsh standard because we are hard on ourselves but our comprehension can be totally different if we take our courage in our hands and ask what their expectations are.

Knowing what you want to accomplish in life is an excellent place to begin mapping out the treasure you can obtain. If you start with knowledge of the end point and the length of time you wish it to take, you can work out what you need to do between then and now. But you must be realistic about yourself and your abilities. If you push yourself too hard and too fast or don’t give yourself enough credit as to exactly what you can achieve, you can always adjust your expectations accordingly.

My life has changed distinctly for the better since I have been working with a life coach. She has been gently prodding me to accomplish more and believe in myself and my abilities. Without God having placed her in my life, I would not have had the courage to begin fulfilling the purpose I know He has for our family. Is it easy? No. Can it be done? Of course. You need to have people surrounding you that believe in you when you don’t and show you what you are capable of. Having a false expectation of yourself and others can cause such difficulties for you. But you can change all that.

If you need someone rooting for you, go find a friend, family member or even a coach that does, regardless of your own expectations. Your abilities, purpose and passion do matter. You can make positive changes to your life no matter what it throws at you. So please, do think about this. Work out what you need and begin to make the necessary adjustments. If this has caused you to think about where you are now and where you would like to be, I am glad. Your life is important and you can make a difference in the world if you believe in yourself.

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What I love to do

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One thing many of you may not know about me is that I hate technology. Not just a bit but really honestly some days i would rather not have anything to do with it. And yet you see me writing on WordPress and making blog articles. It has taken me a long time to be comfortable with it and finally discover how to write, get photos to go with my articles and try and write more than once a week.

Much of my time is spent on Facebook and I have a lot of international friends through using it. Some of them I chat to almost every day – others are once a week or once every so often. I have discovered my friends through different groups, forming friendships or just seeing them online and thinking we have things in common and I would love to get to know them. Yes, I find it fun to have friends you can chat to all over the world. It expands your horizons and introduces you to subjects you never considered. I do find it enjoyable, especially last year when I was so poorly and didn’t have anything else I could physically do.

I love to be creative but because of all the illnesses I had last year (on top of my chronic conditions) I wasn’t able to do much with my hands. In fact, even writing (which I love) was not something I could physically do with a pen so I had to transfer my writing skills from paper and pen to iPad and typing. This has a been a journey for me that I wasn’t initially willing to take because I wanted to do what I had always done. But I have managed to overcome that and begin typing my words instead of writing them.

My husband has got me different artistic apps some of which were free and some of which had to be paid for. I tried all of them without success and couldn’t get on with them. This just wasn’t working for me. I couldn’t figure out the packages in the way I wanted to or produce the quality of work that I wished to. However, I did manage to do 2 pastel drawings but it took a lot of effort and energy from me that I really needed for spending time with my family or doing other things.

Anyway, last night my husband was showing me how to do more things online with my writing and up popped an app called Silk. It looked interesting so Kevin kept a record of it so we could see it after he had finished explaining how to do these things. He also had got me an Apple Pencil and I have been using it and adjusting to the way it worked on the ipad.

This Silk app is the VERY FIRST one I have actually been able to use and enjoy. It reminds me of when I used to enjoy doing Spirograph as a child. In fact I think I spent at least an hour making different pictures and thoroughly enjoying myself. I am just so happy to have found something new and fun that I can do.

Have you found anything exciting or enjoyable that you never anticipated finding? What made you enjoy it? How did you adjust to being able to accomplish something you never expected?