Life and Lemons

I was thinking about life and lemons last night. As both Kevin and I are disabled people could look at us and possibly think that it must be really hard for both of us to be disabled.

What you have to remember is that everyone has different struggles because of the lemons thrown at them but it is how you deal with those lemons that matter. For Kevin and I, the lovely thing is that in our marriage because we are both disabled, we understand that the other can’t do certain things and work together to sort things out.

For me, visiting the hospital is not a pleasant experience. I have had lots of problems over the years that have kept me in and away from the people and things I love. Now Kevin views going to hospital as a really exciting thing and I want Johnathan to view it that way as well so I encourage him to look forward to any appointments there and that the doctors and nurses are there to help him.

You can’t change the lemons that get tossed your way. That is a fact. BUT you can change how you view them and what you do. I know you hear the saying “When life throws you lemons, make lemonade.” Well personally I don’t see why it has to be lemonade. What about a lovely pudding like lemon meringue pie? I think that would be much nicer. With that you get the pastry AND the meringue. Much better idea in my opinion.

When somebody is short with you or rude and you don’t know why, remember the lemons. You have no idea what they are going through. They may have had some bad news, or maybe it could be as simple as them not having had enough sleep. Personally I think extending grace to others is a good thing to do if you can. I know it can be difficult, but it is possible.

Don’t get me wrong here. If someone has done something really bad (basically illegal) you do NOT have to take them back into your life. You can (if you wish) extend grace to them but you need to protect yourself and your family to keep them safe. You don’t even have to tell them about the grace you extend to them if you don’t want to because it is not for their sake, but for your own and your peace of mind.

So what are you going to do about lemons that get thrown your way? Make lemonade or lemon meringue pie and change things around? Or just sit with the lemons in your lap? Have a down time about these lemons if you need to, but then get up and make something different out of it. I don’t think it matters if it’s lemonade or lemon meringue pie. But determine in yourself that you can make a change.

So what flavour are you?

What flavour are you? I read a post someone put in a group on Facebook the other day and that talked about flavours of ice cream and that she had tried to be vanilla ice cream because most other ice cream flavours are built on the basis of this one ice cream. What she began to realise is that you can’t be vanilla ice cream to everyone.

Personally, my immediate choice was chocolate because that’s what I love but then I suddenly stopped and thought “Am I really? Is that how I would describe myself?”

As I began to think, I realised I wasn’t chocolate flavour after all. If you were talking about my past life, then yes you might have believed me to be that, but that wasn’t actually me.

Now I would say I am actually honeycomb flavour ice cream. Sweet and a bit crunchy and a little different. I am an intuitive artist and my life has gone a different direction to the way I had imagined.

But you know what? I am happy being a honeycomb flavour ice cream. This may not have been the life I expected, but I have a wonderful husband, a son, 3 cats and 1 dog and 5 babies in heaven. A totally difference experience, but I am not what I was.

Actually, as we grow and develop in life, I wonder if we change flavours of ice cream? No, I think it is the toppings that change as we grow and develop in life. We have our character and personality in us from when we are in the womb. What changes isn’t the stuff that makes us who we are, but the externals can make us appear to be something we are not.

So what flavour of ice cream are you? Chocolate? Honeycomb? Orange? Lemon? At the end of the day, it doesn’t really matter. What you are makes you unique and nobody in the world is exactly like you. Even if you have identical twins, they are not the same just because they look alike.

You just need to express yourself as you are. Don’t try to be someone else. It won’t fit right on you. If you’re smooth chocolate, don’t try to be chocolate chips flavour. People will feel that you are being false. They won’t know why or how but they will know something is off.

So go on out there and be the flavour you are. Don’t let someone try to convince you otherwise. You won’t be best friends with everyone you meet, and that’s ok. Your character and personality need to stand out. Learn to love and accept exactly who you are.