The summer of life. What a beautiful statement to be able to make. Just think about it a bit. Summer is beautiful and warm and refreshing. You can sit outside and just soak up the sun’s rays.
So exactly what do we get in this season of life? The vision of summer conjures up images of people on rivers or canals in some kind of boat. Or maybe you’re not that kind of person. Perhaps you like the beach? Or do you go exploring?
Kevin and I love nothing more than to pick a place on the map and tell the navigation to ignore all motorways. We have discovered beautiful countryside this way. And met some lovely people doing different crafting things.
Summer holidays are also part of the equation of it all. Children have a break during this period and they mostly love it! This is a beautiful time where they are able to grow and explore and learn and develop without the constraints of the classroom.
But what about the summer of life? The one within your heart and soul? It is a time where you get to rejoice at the beauty surrounding you as the plants and trees bear fruit. This is not the time for gathering it all up – it needs to grow to full fruition.
My summer of life is wild and exciting. I am looking forward to the full beauty at the end of the summer and the beginning of autumn where we begin to gather the fruit in and store it up for the season that is coming.
You might wonder how I know this is the season of life that I am in. Well, I will tell you. My winter season has been and gone, the leanness of nothing within is past. Spring entered my soul and I can point to the places where small seeds began to sprout. Now I am starting to know and understand things I never did before. I am beginning to see ideas spring from my mind and learn the beauty of colour and words and shape and form.
Are you also in the summer of your life? What can you see emerging from the seeds that were planted during the springtime? Your life is important and precious and I would love to hear from you.
I have been thinking about mindsets and how we believe things because someone we see as having authority or knowledge has told us something. It is not that we have thought about it ourselves and come up with the idea, we just follow it (sometimes blindly) and never think about it.
Believing something because you KNOW it to be true is different from having a core belief that you don’t question because you think it has always been there or someone told you it was that way and you never had reason to doubt they were right.
Let me give you an example from my life. I had lots of different illnesses and physical issues – one of which was only being able to open my mouth one inch in total. This was impacting the rest of my body and causing many different things to happen. I went to see lots of different doctors and dentists and probably other ones as well but I can’t remember who they were and none of them had the answer.
Because I wasn’t getting an answer, the suggestion was that I had Munchausens and that I needed psychiatric help because my physical problems were all in my mind. I let this become a belief of mine because I was told it by people “in authority” but it wasn’t actually true.
Eventually we discovered that I needed my whole face reconstructed and that would take a lot of surgeries to correct being spaced out over a year. So that blew the whole concept of me having Munchausens out of the water.
You know what? It doesn’t have to be something as big as that mindset needing changing. It could be something really small and almost invisible. But if that changed you would have a life that was fulfilling and rewarding. Not everybody has such a massive mindset change that large, and that’s ok. I needed to know there WAS a physical reason for what I was going through and it wasn’t mental.
Changing your mindset is not something that is done easily or lightly. Sometimes they are beliefs that you have had from when you were a child that you don’t even remember being taught them, or they are ones that have come to you later in life and you just accept them because they seem authoritative.
The first important step you need to take is to look at those beliefs and work out if they are true or not. If they are NOT true, you need to reframe your thoughts and remember to tell yourself the new thought that you want embedded in your brain whenever you see the old thought returning. The good thing is that you CAN rewire your brain to a more positive way of thinking. You don’t need to hold onto the old belief that doesn’t help you in the long run.
So, with that being said, what mindsets do you need to change? Please do leave a comment for me and I will respond as soon as possible.
Finding yourself is a topic that could go on forever, but today I want to bring a few things to your attention. When I moved to Scotland I had no memory of the past. Everything was different and I knew I needed to find myself. But how to go about it was not immediately clear.
One of the things I did was to change my name. I wanted one where the meaning of it connected to God. Anika means a gift of God’s favour and Bathia is daughter of God. This gave me a link to someone/something bigger than myself and brought me peace.
I’m not saying that you need to change your name to find yourself. It was my pathway in life but may not be yours and that’s OK. Nobody follows another’s path in life. Though you may have the same experiences as someone else, you will both respond to them differently because of different experiences in the past.
Finding myself from that blankness has taken 9 years. And there have been people that have come and gone in that time. And some that have been in my life over that whole period. You know what? That’s OK, too.
I have discovered that my passion is to create digital intuitive artwork for others. After Christmas I was attempting to do a piece and it just simply wasn’t working, or satisfying me so I changed it. And the client is totally happy with what I produced.
When you discover yourself and your passion, developing your talents and gifts is a wonderful way to express our purpose in the world. We are not here to just please ourselves but to be a blessing to others.
Have you found your passion yet or are you still on the journey to find yourself? I would love to hear from you. The journey will continue until death but knowing who you are, what you are here for and following that to bless others is what we are made for. We are all unique and finding yourself can be quite a challenge.
Confidence is a great thing. I love the fact that I have friends and family that encourage me and cheer me on. Positive words drive me to achieve my best and do what other people believe I can do. Sometimes without such support from others I feel as though I’m not capable enough or good enough to do things on my own – I’m not confident enough in myself.
Believing in yourself is important. Knowing your own potential is, too. Sometimes however, you need others to help you understand the talents and gifts that you have. It’s not that you don’t have such talents, but sometimes you lack confidence in your ability, or just feel you’re not good enough to do whatever it is you want to do.
Self belief is an important thing. I’m not saying you should be overly proud of your accomplishments or even be falsely humble in them. Believing you are capable and able to do something that you actually can do is one of the most important things in life.
Your gifts, talents and passion were all given to you for a reason. You were blessed in a unique way that nobody else in the world has been and what you do is done in a different way to anyone else.
However, you do not need anyone to validate who you are and what you do. I began to realise this as I stepped into my passion and realised confidence was the ingredient I was missing. I was looking for external validation to tell me if something I did was OK or not.
Then I wondered: why could I not be my own cheerleader ? Why could I not tell myself I have done a good job and be proud of my accomplishments, and the talents and abilities God has given me ? He made me this way and I should be able to believe I can do what He wishes.
So where are you in your journey in life ? Can you tell yourself you have done well ? Or do you need external validation ? You are made for a special reason and you need to discover what it is and live it out with confidence in yourself.
Find out who you are and your purpose in life and live in your own authenticity. If you are real, people will be drawn to you. And cheering yourself on in life and not expecting others to validate your talents and abilities is the best thing you could ever do.
Don’t live your life expecting and waiting for others to validate your mission. You are unique, just as everyone else in the world is.